Saturday, August 21, 2010

How can parents or other adults teach adolescents to develop intimacy in a relationship?

Also is adolescence to late for this? If so, how would this be taught in earlier childhood?How can parents or other adults teach adolescents to develop intimacy in a relationship?
a buddy of mine popped this question up at the dinner table just last friday. The rich, golden champagne burst out of my nose with the intense passion of two adolescent's first love. Just some comic relief for you.


Listen: game plan


- at age five teach the basics of intimacy. the simple dos and donts, what protection is and the risks that are still involved and all this stuff


- at age eight pump up the volume and teach less basic information


- repeat this order in a fashion that rises the instensity each year and when it is appropriate





dont feel afraid or nervous to the point where you cant do it


imagine how afraid and nervous your child will feel when the time comes and no one has explained it!How can parents or other adults teach adolescents to develop intimacy in a relationship?
Simple gestures to teach them appropriate and inappropriate things for certain times and points in a relationship.





For example. Parents can hug and give a quick kiss out in public...it shows their children it's okay to be slightly affectionate then, there's nothing wrong with it. Or a mom cuddling with one of her kids show that it's okay to be close. Parents talking to their children about sex and relationships and intimacy and explaining the difference between appropriate and inappropriate also helps. There are really a lot of ways.
I think the best thing parents can do is to have a good relationship with their spouse. Everything starts at home.
Let them date. Let them practice and experiment. Also be a good example for them with your spouse.
What??? You want to teach your kids how to bone? I'm confused.

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