My husband and I are trying considering having another child. We are fiscally able to and physically able to, but we have second thoughts. He works is a professor and is very tied up with work, he feels it would just be more stress on his day-to-day life. We are already blessed with our daughter Olivia Jane (who is 7 and a tap dancer) and our son Matthew Brooks ( who is 14 and a skater - we don't get it either). How does having a third child transform your life, 2 positives, 2 negatives - thanksWhat are highlights of being a parent to three children?
Believe me it is hard to adjust to a new baby but it is a blessing. I had a single child just last year and now I am a proud mother of seven beautiful children. Thankfully (I feel bad saying so) the sextuplets were released from the NICU on different days. First Alexis came home. I could tell Hannah (she was 18 months at the time) was not exactly thrilled but we adjusted as a family. Three days later Colin came home and it was hard to adjust but we again did so as a family. The hardest came two days later when Aaden and Grace came home. I was a little upset that I had to now adjust to these as a group but I was just happy to have my children home. Thankfully a week later Sophia and Michael were discharged and our family of nine was complete. Yes it is hard to adjust but they are your children and you will have your daughter to help you a lot and even your son with a few things. Hope I helped you with your decision.What are highlights of being a parent to three children?
I just had my third, so we're going through the 'new adjustment' phase. LOL So far, the kids love him. My oldest is 5 and is always in my face while I'm nursing so he can see the baby. :) Positives - for me at least - I feel like my family is more complete (although before we left the hospital I was already asking my husband about #4 LOL!). Another positive - they have each other to grow up with and everything once we're gone.
A negative - people perceive a third child as a 'luxury' or something you only do if you're crazy. Two children is perceived as the perfect number of kids, so if you do decide to have another, be prepared for stupid comments and people treating you like you're odd or selfish.
I can't think of another negative - someone said the age gap, which could be a negative but could also be a plus, too. It helps that my children are older and more self-sufficient, and can also help me out, too. Having them close in age doesn't mean they'll get along or be any closer to each other than those aren't close in age.
I have four and mine are all really close ( 6, 5, 3 and 22 months ), so I don't know how much help I will be. I can't imagine life without them now.
A positive for me is that when I take a moment to look at my family I feel complete, I never really had that peace until we had our last one. Another is watching their relationships and interactions with each other, especially since I know how important my siblings are to me as an adult.
Negatives obviously more expensive all the way around, and some days there can be a lot of squabbling going on, but the positives out weigh the negatives a hundred times over!
I have three and wouldn't trade it.
Mine are a lot closer together, so to list out positive and negatives probably wouldn't help you out, as our families are quite different (mine are nearly 6, 2.5 and 1).
The interaction is great - yes, it pulls out more sibling rivalry, but once you've got more than one, it's there anyhow.
Once the third is there, you won't be able to imagine your family without him or her.
I have 3, its just always fun here...always someone to play with for the kids, it hectic as hell but the oldest helps out too. A HELL of a lot more laundry LOL, and money wise it gets insane, but I dont know how to explain it it feels more full and more of a complete family. Sorry if that didnt help...
a positive would be that you have another little angel to raise =)
another positive would be you are brining another life into the world
the negative would be that there would be a pretty big age difference between your first son and the new baby
one more kid to the family wont change much.... But you may have some pretty long nights. Once you have the child i think that all you can do is love him/her. everything is positive from there on out.
someone will have to sit out on the rides at disney land
Friday, November 25, 2011
How to Skateboard and persude your parents to get you one?
So im persuading my parents to get me a skateboard. And it looks like so much fun. But i realy wanna learn the basics like starting, stopping, jumping, turning. Nothing fancy. I know it sounds retarded but watevzzz.How to Skateboard and persude your parents to get you one?
If your parents think it's is too dangerous like mine did, tell them exactly wat you said. ';It sounds like fun and it would be a great hobby for me to get into';
http://www.instructables.com/id/How-To-S鈥?/a>
when i started i checked out this site...it helped a lot
but what really helped me out was my friends...they taught me lots of tricks after i leared the basicsHow to Skateboard and persude your parents to get you one?
well....you can do what I did. show them that it's not as dangerous as they may think. show them you can do stuff without hurting yourself. I've been skating for 5 months. haven't broke ANYTHING!! haven't hurt myself. Most I have had was a sprain ankle cause I landed wrong. lasted a few hours and the pain was gone. when you fall, you don't feel it because of all the adrenalyn
If your parents think it's is too dangerous like mine did, tell them exactly wat you said. ';It sounds like fun and it would be a great hobby for me to get into';
http://www.instructables.com/id/How-To-S鈥?/a>
when i started i checked out this site...it helped a lot
but what really helped me out was my friends...they taught me lots of tricks after i leared the basicsHow to Skateboard and persude your parents to get you one?
well....you can do what I did. show them that it's not as dangerous as they may think. show them you can do stuff without hurting yourself. I've been skating for 5 months. haven't broke ANYTHING!! haven't hurt myself. Most I have had was a sprain ankle cause I landed wrong. lasted a few hours and the pain was gone. when you fall, you don't feel it because of all the adrenalyn
How to get expelled without parents getting mad?
I'm not really planning on doing this but i am curious how would i get expelled from my highschool and have a good enough reason for my parents to be the least mad possible?How to get expelled without parents getting mad?
By standing up for a principal greater than the puny rules and laws of the school district. For example, engaging in a fight to defend a helpless person being bullied or tormented. Schools may suspend or expel for fighting, but the reason for the fight was for a greater good.How to get expelled without parents getting mad?
Fight for a cause, For example, find some evil that your school is doing like uniforms and take the flag of individualism and break the rules through the power of civil disobedience. Your parents will respect your strong fight for the right type opinion and you'll get kicked out of school for breaking the rules multiple times
face like u are supper depressed and beat someone up all the while telling them that u are feeling pain inside that no one will ever understand and at least that person can see and feel ur pain... but u also will have to start self-injuring, being reclusive, be very adjitated ex call ur mom a b****. after uv been expeled they will take u to a pychyatrist (if they can get you in in that short of time) then just sit there dont talk to them act really missunderstood and angry. they will either give you meds mostly likely anti-deppressants and mood stabelizers, and perhaps anti-psychotics and hospitalization if you tell them ur homisidal or suididal. anyway if you go to a mental intitution you will only have to work on homework a few hours a day. but ull be bored and ull hate taking that medicine. --- so really what this proves if you really go through with this plan u probably would be as mentaly ill as the imaginative senerio --- bottom line----- its not worth it
You could fake a nervous breakdown and get confined to a mental institution for a few months.
In any case, what's the purpose? Once you were expelled what is your game plan? Go to another school? Find a job and place of your own? Just live in the family basement?
pass out a bible to everyone in school and start trying to teach everyone about God. The public school system HATES that. and im sure your parents wouldn't be mad
not possible
get them earplugs
move out
By standing up for a principal greater than the puny rules and laws of the school district. For example, engaging in a fight to defend a helpless person being bullied or tormented. Schools may suspend or expel for fighting, but the reason for the fight was for a greater good.How to get expelled without parents getting mad?
Fight for a cause, For example, find some evil that your school is doing like uniforms and take the flag of individualism and break the rules through the power of civil disobedience. Your parents will respect your strong fight for the right type opinion and you'll get kicked out of school for breaking the rules multiple times
face like u are supper depressed and beat someone up all the while telling them that u are feeling pain inside that no one will ever understand and at least that person can see and feel ur pain... but u also will have to start self-injuring, being reclusive, be very adjitated ex call ur mom a b****. after uv been expeled they will take u to a pychyatrist (if they can get you in in that short of time) then just sit there dont talk to them act really missunderstood and angry. they will either give you meds mostly likely anti-deppressants and mood stabelizers, and perhaps anti-psychotics and hospitalization if you tell them ur homisidal or suididal. anyway if you go to a mental intitution you will only have to work on homework a few hours a day. but ull be bored and ull hate taking that medicine. --- so really what this proves if you really go through with this plan u probably would be as mentaly ill as the imaginative senerio --- bottom line----- its not worth it
You could fake a nervous breakdown and get confined to a mental institution for a few months.
In any case, what's the purpose? Once you were expelled what is your game plan? Go to another school? Find a job and place of your own? Just live in the family basement?
pass out a bible to everyone in school and start trying to teach everyone about God. The public school system HATES that. and im sure your parents wouldn't be mad
not possible
get them earplugs
move out
This comes from a worried parent so please no jokes. What happens if my 3 month old son can't go poo?
We had to put him on the second formual as he was just sucking the first 1 dry! But now we have changed, his bowl movements have almost stopped. The last time that he went was 2 days ago. We have seen the Doc and he said not to give him nothing to help him go and that he would go eventually. The Health Care worker isn't much help either.This comes from a worried parent so please no jokes. What happens if my 3 month old son can't go poo?
It's probably the formula change. Also, it's normal for some formula fed babies to go up to five days without pooping.
There are suppositories to help, though.This comes from a worried parent so please no jokes. What happens if my 3 month old son can't go poo?
Infant Constipation
Most parents, at some stage, worry about their infant’s bowel movements.
Maybe you are concerned because the frequency of your baby’s stools has decreased. Perhaps you became alarmed when your baby appeared to strain while trying to poop. If these changes coincide with your baby being unsettled, it’s only natural that you would wonder if he could be constipated.
bWhat is constipation?
It’s not the frequency of bowel movements or straining that determines if a baby is constipated or not, it’s the consistency of the stool. A baby is constipated if he passes firm, dry pebbly poop. However, if his poop is fluid, soft or paste consistency, then he’s not constipated.
Crying while passing a bowel movement, bleeding from the anus, abdominal pain and reduced appetite can also be signs a baby is constipated.
WHAT INFANT STOOLS LOOK LIKE…
When baby is breast fed
Consistency: Soft or runny.
Color: Yellow mustard to orange with little white flecks that look like seeds.
Frequency: Can vary from every feed to once per week.
When baby is formula fed
Consistency: Soft paste.
Color: Grayish green, yellow, tan or brown, depending on the type of formula.
Frequency: Every 1 to 2 days.
When baby is eating solid food
Consistency: Paste to formed stools. Often contains undigested food.
Color: Can vary depending on what is eaten.
Frequency: Can be less frequent – particularly for a breast fed baby.
CHANGE IN FREQUENCY
It’s true that infant constipation can result in less frequent bowel movements than normal. However, a decrease in the number of times your baby poops each day doesn’t necessarily mean he’s constipated.
A change in diet e.g. switching formula or introducing new foods can result in changes in the amount and how often a baby poops.
A decrease in the number of times a breast fed infant passes a bowel movement is often noticeable around 4 weeks of age, as baby’s digestive system begins to mature. Although a formula fed baby’s digestive system matures at the same rate, a change in number of times a formula fed baby passes a bowel movement may not be obvious at this time.
STRAINING
Adults strain as a result of constipation, but constipation is not the only reason a baby will strain while trying to pass a bowel movement. Provided his poop is not firm, dry or pebbly, then he’s not constipated.
It can be very alarming when as a parent you see your young baby draw his little legs up and grunt and groan and go red in the face while tying to poop. However, this is very normal behavior for an infant particularly in the early weeks of life! Straining helps move the stool through his intestines.
Straining commonly occurs around 2 - 4 weeks of age, as baby becomes more aware of his body sensations. He strains as he’s learning to control his body. He needs to figure out which muscles do what and how much effort is needed to pass a bowel movement. He will often use a little more effort than is necessary to begin with as he’s learning. Within a couple of weeks he will become a “poop expert” and the straining should settle.
Straining can also occur when baby is learning to pass a larger or slightly thicker consistency stool than he’s used to, e.g. when changing from breast feeding to formula or when he first starting on solids. This also, is normal and generally settles within a week or so.
* Staining is normal, but crying during straining can be a sign of constipation.
COMMON CAUSES OF INFANT CONSTIPATION
Inadequate fluid
The type of formula
New foods
Low fibre
Food intolerance
Inadequate fluid
Is your baby gaining appropriate amounts of weight for his age?
Is he passing lots of urine?
If the answer is no, he may not be getting enough fluid in the form of breast milk or formula and this can lead to constipation.
A breast fed baby does not need extra fluids until he starts eating solid foods. Even then only small amounts are offered, more for the benefit of providing learning opportunities than for hydration. Additional fluids should not replace breast milk.
Depending on the climate, a formula fed baby may not need extra fluids until he commences solids. However, if you live in a warmer climate, offering baby water (in addition to formula) is often recommended at an earlier age.
Check how you are preparing his formula. Make sure you are adding the correct number of scoops of formula powder to water, as recommended by the manufacturer. Take care not to overfill or tightly pack the formula powder in the scoop. This can lead to a more concentrated formula resulting in constipation.
The type of infant formula
Switching formula (or switching to cows milk) can lead to a change in stool consistency, resulting in either constipation or loose runny poop. Most often this change is only temporary, until your baby’s little tummy gets used to the new formula.
Some types and brands of formula are more constipating than others. If constipation continues to be a problem for your little one, it may be necessary to change formula.
New foods
It’s common for a breast fed baby to experience constipation for the first time when solid foods are introduced into his diet. His little body is just not used to digesting anything other than breast milk. Introduce new foods slowly to allow time for him to adjust.
Some foods are more constipating than others. If your baby passes a firm, dry, pebbly poop, think back to what he’s eaten in the previous 24 hours. Did you offer him a new food? If there’s something you can identify, wait until his constipation has cleared, then try offering it in smaller amounts next time.
Low fibre
Fibre is only found in plant foods such as cereals, fruits and vegetables. Babies over 6 months with high intakes of formula or cows milk (only recommended after 12 months) can become constipated. It’s not the milk itself that cause this, it’s simply that the child fills up on milk which means he will have no appetite for other foods which provide fibre.
Food intolerance
Persistent constipation can be a sign of milk or food intolerance.
Some Medications Common medications given to babies can sometimes cause constipation.
pain-killers containing paracetamol, acetaminophen and ibuprophen
antibiotics
antacids containing aluminium
Infant constipation remedies
Most babies are not truly constipated unless they experience all of the following:
1. Firm, dry pebbly stools
2. No bowel movement for 2-3 days for formula fed babies and 7-10 days for breastfed babies, and
3. Strains while trying to poop.
Unless your little one has a problem with all three, she’s probably not constipated and you needn't do anything. If baby is constipated, treatment may be necessary. I suggest you start with the simple things first.
* It’s rare that a fully breast fed baby will become constipated prior to the commencement of solids. 7 or 10 days without a poop can be very normal where baby is only offered breast milk. Breast milk is the perfect food for babies and very little is left to waste. Breast milk also has a natural laxative effect, that helps protect baby against constipation.
Natural remedies
Water
Sugar e.g. brown sugar or corn syrup (Karo)
Fruit juice
Water
Increasing the amount of water offered, is often more effective than adding sugars to a baby’s diet. For babies less than 6 months of age, offer 1 oz of cooled boiled water, once or twice a day. For babies over 6 months offer 2 oz once or twice a day.
Sugar
A remedy for constipation that has been around for centuries and still recommended today is to add some form of sugar to a baby’s diet. The sugar works by drawing additional fluid into baby’s bowel to soften the stools. Sugar can come from fruit, in the form of fructose or sorbitol or sucrose from sugar cane.
It’s commonly recommended to add sugar (particularly brown sugar) or corn syrup (Karo) to baby’s formula. Rather than do this, I suggest you offer it in a small amount of cooled boiled water for two reasons…
The additional water is helpful, and
If baby becomes accustomed to drinking the sweetened formula he may fuss with feeding once the sugar or corn syrup is stopped.
Caution: In previous generations, honey was recommended as a natural sugar to relieve constipation. It is no longer recommended that children under 12 months be offered honey because the associated risk of botulism (a gastro-intestinal illness).
Brown Sugar
Add ½ teaspoon of brown sugar (the one used for cooking) to 1 oz of cooled, boiled water.
Offer this to baby 3 times a day, directly before formula feeds, only until he passes a soft stool.
*Although brown sugar is recommended because it contains molasses, white sugar would do.
Karo syrup
Corn syrup is a mildly sweet, concentrated solution of sugars derived from corn starch. A common brand is Karo. Light Karo is recommended for treating infant constipation.
Add 1 teaspoon of Karo syrup to 4 oz of cooled boiled water. Offer 1 oz of this solution to baby from a bottle, just before formula feeds, twice a day only until he passes a soft stool.
Caution: Only add sugar or corn syrup to your little one’s diet if you are treating constipation.
Fruit juice
Offer diluted apple, prune or pear juice. Dilute the juice to ¼ strength to start with, by adding cooled boiled water to the juice. Slowly increase the concentration to ½ strength if necessary.
Offer 1 oz of diluted juice to babies 2 – 6 months or 2 oz for babies over 6 months, twice a day until the poop has softened. Give less rather than more to start with. Too much juice can result in abdominal gas, bloating and diarrhea.
Unlike added sugars (including Karo), fruit juice can be offered on a regular or daily basis to maintain soft stools.
Caution: Do not treat infant constipation with juice and additional sugars (including Karo) at the same time. Choose only one treatment.
Fruit
Rice cereal, bananas, and pureed apple can result in firmer stools. Carrots and squash are constipating for some babies. Prunes, peaches, pears, plums, apricots, and peas make stools softer.
For a baby under 9 months, avoid citrus fruits such as orange, grapefruit and pineapple as the acid content in these fruits can be harsh on little tummies, as well as the skin around his mouth and bottom (when it comes out).
Recommendations for relieving infant constipation
Babies under 2 months old
1. Offer additional water – 1 oz once or twice a day.
2. Try brown sugar or Karo syrup.
3. Change formula if constipation returns.
Babies between 2 – 6 months
1. Offer additional water – 1 or 2 oz once or twice a day.
2. Try brown sugar or Karo syrup OR diluted fruit juice.
3. Change formula if constipation returns
Babies over 6 months
1. Offer additional water - 2 oz once of twice a day.
2. Offer baby a mixed grain cereal.
3. Offer fruit juice or daily if necessary to maintain soft stools.
4. Increase the amount of fruit offered daily.
Babies over 12 months
1. Offer plenty of water.
2. Increase activity.
3. Check milk intake, decreasing the amount to 24 oz per day if necessary.
4. For those who are trained or in the process or toilet training, encourage regular toilet times or sit child on the potty after meals.
Medications
Laxatives
Laxatives are only necessary if natural remedies have failed or where constipation is severe. Although many different types of laxatives can be purchased over the counter, most laxatives are not suitable for babies and small children. If you feel your little one’s needs a laxative to relieve his constipation, we recommend you consult your doctor about the best treatment.
Different laxatives work in different ways.
Some simply soften the stool.
Others act as a peristaltic stimulant (in other words, they stimulate the natural contractions of the bowel, in order to push the stool out).
Some offer a combination of a softener with a peristaltic stimulant.
Others offer additional fibre.
Laxatives can be given to babies orally in the form of drops or anally by suppository or enema.
What to do when baby is constipated and strains
When baby strains, lift his knees to his chest (which is a natural squatting position). Or gently move his legs backwards and forwards in a ‘bicycle’ motion. Also…
Try a warm bath and/or a tummy massage.
Tummy massage
Baby’s large bowel sits in his abdomen in one large loop. Poop travels around his large bowel in a clockwise direction. To assist him to expel gas that can occur with constipation, it’s best to follow the natural path of his large bowel.
Put some oil on your hands and gently massage his abdomen (the area under his ribs) in a clockwise direction using long stroking actions. Alternate this with lifting his knees and the ‘bicycle’ motion.
When to see your doctor
If baby cries while straining.
If constipation remains a persistent problem.
If the number of wet diapers each day have also decreased.
If your baby passes an unusual stool or has blood in his poop.
If you notice any bleeding from baby’s anus.
For advice on suitable laxatives.
*If you are concerned your baby’s constipation is due to iron, please consult your doctor before making any changes to his diet.
*Constipation in infants is rarely due to excess iron. Low iron formula should only be given if recommended by your doctor
sorry if its too long as i cant get the link to come up for it lol
take him to the doc. my son was 6 weeks old when he ended up in hospital due to constipation(he was only pooing once a week!) i had recently changed to sma hungry baby (because he was) and i think thats what caused it. i tried orange juice to help him but nothing worked and the doctor kept telling me he was crying 24/7 because of colic, and i knew it wasnt that. in the end he started passing out and turning blue because he was in that much pain, so i took him to the hospital and in the end i was listened to and my child was given lactulose. and he improved almost immediately(i also used to massage his bum cheeks together...dont ask why but it works) he eventually stopped needing the laxitive when he started on proper food. hes four now so it worked out alright in the end, thank god
If this was my baby I would be back down the doctors. My health visitor used to reccomend a small amount of fresh orange juice but that was 8 years ago so it may have changed since then but it never done any of my babies any harm. Have you asked your pharmacist sometimes they can be better than the doctors. I wouldnt leave it any longer then 2-3 days. Good luck.
Well years ago it was suggested to give the baby a drink of sugar water ( not too sweet) or a teaspoon of gripe water.
An old fashioned remedy but one which worked. My health visitor recommended it.
If it gets to three days, give him a baby-size glycerin suppository and he'll do a big doodle in under 20 minutes.
here are things i did with my baby and she was formula fed, and she had times like this. also pay attention if they are farting, if they are, then they are constipated. makesure to have rash cream on their tush at all times so it don't hurt when it comes out.
1. hold baby up on your chest with their legs bent. start patting their butt upwards for awhile. take a break, do it again. that always helped my child
2. once a day give them a bottle of water with some apple juice in it. that worked too.
3. lay them on their back, and bend their knees to their tummy and stretch out, keep doing that. GOOD LUCK!
I would say he's constipated. Try giving him prune juice.
if he starts crying because he's got a bellyache, give him a drink of boiled water with a tiny bit of sugar or a spot of apple juice in it. He'll be fine.
Use 1 less scoop of formula, eg: 7oz water 6 scoops.His body need to get used to the extra fats and stuff in the higher formula..Give plenty of cool boiled water to drink.If that doesn't work seek medical advice.
please see a real doctor, f you're really worried and nothing changes!!
As long as it's not causing him pain or discomfort then he's fine. They are right, he'll go on his own eventually. Although when he does, that diaper change won't be a lot of fun.
thats pretty normal for his age so do not worry. My son started going every other day at 3 months and now hes almost 5 months and still doing that. Its very normal so do not worry. The only thing you need to worry about is if they start not having many wet diapers. My son has not went in 2 days as well :).
i see everyone saying to give him water but the DR actually told us to stay away from it bc their kidneys are working overtime and water is the last thing they need for them (kidneys). Just wait another day I am sure he will have a bog poo tomorrow and everyone will feel better (I wish that for my son too, lol. )
it is perfectly normal ; scares the heck out of most parents .....
try feedin a jar of 1st prunes with a spoon ..... that will definately get him goin ....
my son started skipping days at two mths from twice a day and it scared us so bad ......
also Similac Advanced plus Iron makes babies poo alot ... just a regular 8 oz bottle should do the trick ....
my 15week old baby didn't go for7days.so i gave him 1ounce pure orange juice mixed with 1 once of boiled water. he went that evening.
Hi, a lot of people have suggested water, sugar water , juice etc, I wouldnt do this without checking with your doctor, as their kidneys may struggle to cope. There are a couple of other things you can try, massage his stomach in a clockwise direction around his belly button, this is the direction of the bowel and can help to get things moving. Also if you are in the UK, you can buy ready to drink cartons of formula which as they contain preservatives can help your son to become more regular, I swopped to this for a couple of months with my daughter and she was soon going regularly again.
2 days isnt really anything to worry about, just make sure you are still getting plenty of wet nappies and keep an eye on his stomach, if it appears to be bulging more than normal, or you can real a hard 'knot' when massaging then go back to your doctor. Hope this helps , I remember the worries of bowel movements and sympathise !!! :)
Make sure he has plenty of cooled boiled water to keep his system hydrated.
You could also try well-diluted fruit juice - orange or apple.
Don't go for the old fashioned sugared water idea, it just dries the system up further.
Second formula is harder to digest - that is the whole point of it - but the downside of this is that it can change bowel habits. Your baby not going for 2 days isn't really a cause for concern. Anything up to once a week is considered normal. He will probably get used to the formula in a few days and start to poop normally again.
i put my daughter on hungry baby milk and was told to add 1/2 oz of extra water to each feed so 7.5 water to 7 powder etc to help. baby needs to go to the loo as eventually it will poison his system (it will take a while so dont worry its not going to happen in the next couple days!)
my cousin had twins, 1 of which just stopped going to the loo, she is now on pica sulphate and latculose (sorry about the spelling) you may also find if hes straining that lifting his legs up so his knees are nearer his chin might help him a little too, this was what my cousin was told by the hospital dr.if he still doesnt go in the next couple days take him back to the dr!
DONT BE TOO ALARMED BUT WHAT I DID WAS GAVE MY KID THERE MILK THEN ON THE NEXT FEED ILL GIVE THEM A BOTTLE OF WATER SO'S THEY WONT BE CONSTIPATED AND NOW I HAVE GRANDCHILDS MY DAUGHTER NOW DOES WHAT I DID WITH THEM ONE FEED MILK NEXT FEED BOILED WATER COOLED
Are you breastfeeding too or just formula? If you are still producing milk, my advice would be to breastfeed him as much as you possibly can for a week. Breastmilk is the most suited to a baby's immature body and therefore doesn't put so much strain on the digestive system. I had this problem when I moved my baby onto solids at 6 months, after she became constipated, I stopped the solids, reverted back to breastfeeding only for 1 month on the advice of my breastfeeding counsellor and she was fine.
The poor little guy. It must be equally distressing for him as well since he has no idea what's happening. Best thing is to keep him hydrated. I know that at his age he has a sensitive stomach as well as the rest of his system. I wouldn't fool around, get him to your nearest hospital. The specialists there will likely put him on an IV and keep him for observation. Is he having runny bm's? If so, then wait a day or two for the formla to adjust. His system has to get used to the second formula. If in doubt, return to the first formula x 1/2. Still take him into the hospital where he can be checked properly. They have the X-ray machines, Lab and other Doctors available.
its
so bad because its inside and for baby is so hard to manage!
you must use a black draught or enema!
dont listen to everybody that baby get use ti it !I had a problem with my baby for about 5 month but in one day everythink will came ok!
You must do somethink as soon as possible!!!!!!
It's probably the formula change. Also, it's normal for some formula fed babies to go up to five days without pooping.
There are suppositories to help, though.This comes from a worried parent so please no jokes. What happens if my 3 month old son can't go poo?
Infant Constipation
Most parents, at some stage, worry about their infant’s bowel movements.
Maybe you are concerned because the frequency of your baby’s stools has decreased. Perhaps you became alarmed when your baby appeared to strain while trying to poop. If these changes coincide with your baby being unsettled, it’s only natural that you would wonder if he could be constipated.
bWhat is constipation?
It’s not the frequency of bowel movements or straining that determines if a baby is constipated or not, it’s the consistency of the stool. A baby is constipated if he passes firm, dry pebbly poop. However, if his poop is fluid, soft or paste consistency, then he’s not constipated.
Crying while passing a bowel movement, bleeding from the anus, abdominal pain and reduced appetite can also be signs a baby is constipated.
WHAT INFANT STOOLS LOOK LIKE…
When baby is breast fed
Consistency: Soft or runny.
Color: Yellow mustard to orange with little white flecks that look like seeds.
Frequency: Can vary from every feed to once per week.
When baby is formula fed
Consistency: Soft paste.
Color: Grayish green, yellow, tan or brown, depending on the type of formula.
Frequency: Every 1 to 2 days.
When baby is eating solid food
Consistency: Paste to formed stools. Often contains undigested food.
Color: Can vary depending on what is eaten.
Frequency: Can be less frequent – particularly for a breast fed baby.
CHANGE IN FREQUENCY
It’s true that infant constipation can result in less frequent bowel movements than normal. However, a decrease in the number of times your baby poops each day doesn’t necessarily mean he’s constipated.
A change in diet e.g. switching formula or introducing new foods can result in changes in the amount and how often a baby poops.
A decrease in the number of times a breast fed infant passes a bowel movement is often noticeable around 4 weeks of age, as baby’s digestive system begins to mature. Although a formula fed baby’s digestive system matures at the same rate, a change in number of times a formula fed baby passes a bowel movement may not be obvious at this time.
STRAINING
Adults strain as a result of constipation, but constipation is not the only reason a baby will strain while trying to pass a bowel movement. Provided his poop is not firm, dry or pebbly, then he’s not constipated.
It can be very alarming when as a parent you see your young baby draw his little legs up and grunt and groan and go red in the face while tying to poop. However, this is very normal behavior for an infant particularly in the early weeks of life! Straining helps move the stool through his intestines.
Straining commonly occurs around 2 - 4 weeks of age, as baby becomes more aware of his body sensations. He strains as he’s learning to control his body. He needs to figure out which muscles do what and how much effort is needed to pass a bowel movement. He will often use a little more effort than is necessary to begin with as he’s learning. Within a couple of weeks he will become a “poop expert” and the straining should settle.
Straining can also occur when baby is learning to pass a larger or slightly thicker consistency stool than he’s used to, e.g. when changing from breast feeding to formula or when he first starting on solids. This also, is normal and generally settles within a week or so.
* Staining is normal, but crying during straining can be a sign of constipation.
COMMON CAUSES OF INFANT CONSTIPATION
Inadequate fluid
The type of formula
New foods
Low fibre
Food intolerance
Inadequate fluid
Is your baby gaining appropriate amounts of weight for his age?
Is he passing lots of urine?
If the answer is no, he may not be getting enough fluid in the form of breast milk or formula and this can lead to constipation.
A breast fed baby does not need extra fluids until he starts eating solid foods. Even then only small amounts are offered, more for the benefit of providing learning opportunities than for hydration. Additional fluids should not replace breast milk.
Depending on the climate, a formula fed baby may not need extra fluids until he commences solids. However, if you live in a warmer climate, offering baby water (in addition to formula) is often recommended at an earlier age.
Check how you are preparing his formula. Make sure you are adding the correct number of scoops of formula powder to water, as recommended by the manufacturer. Take care not to overfill or tightly pack the formula powder in the scoop. This can lead to a more concentrated formula resulting in constipation.
The type of infant formula
Switching formula (or switching to cows milk) can lead to a change in stool consistency, resulting in either constipation or loose runny poop. Most often this change is only temporary, until your baby’s little tummy gets used to the new formula.
Some types and brands of formula are more constipating than others. If constipation continues to be a problem for your little one, it may be necessary to change formula.
New foods
It’s common for a breast fed baby to experience constipation for the first time when solid foods are introduced into his diet. His little body is just not used to digesting anything other than breast milk. Introduce new foods slowly to allow time for him to adjust.
Some foods are more constipating than others. If your baby passes a firm, dry, pebbly poop, think back to what he’s eaten in the previous 24 hours. Did you offer him a new food? If there’s something you can identify, wait until his constipation has cleared, then try offering it in smaller amounts next time.
Low fibre
Fibre is only found in plant foods such as cereals, fruits and vegetables. Babies over 6 months with high intakes of formula or cows milk (only recommended after 12 months) can become constipated. It’s not the milk itself that cause this, it’s simply that the child fills up on milk which means he will have no appetite for other foods which provide fibre.
Food intolerance
Persistent constipation can be a sign of milk or food intolerance.
Some Medications Common medications given to babies can sometimes cause constipation.
pain-killers containing paracetamol, acetaminophen and ibuprophen
antibiotics
antacids containing aluminium
Infant constipation remedies
Most babies are not truly constipated unless they experience all of the following:
1. Firm, dry pebbly stools
2. No bowel movement for 2-3 days for formula fed babies and 7-10 days for breastfed babies, and
3. Strains while trying to poop.
Unless your little one has a problem with all three, she’s probably not constipated and you needn't do anything. If baby is constipated, treatment may be necessary. I suggest you start with the simple things first.
* It’s rare that a fully breast fed baby will become constipated prior to the commencement of solids. 7 or 10 days without a poop can be very normal where baby is only offered breast milk. Breast milk is the perfect food for babies and very little is left to waste. Breast milk also has a natural laxative effect, that helps protect baby against constipation.
Natural remedies
Water
Sugar e.g. brown sugar or corn syrup (Karo)
Fruit juice
Water
Increasing the amount of water offered, is often more effective than adding sugars to a baby’s diet. For babies less than 6 months of age, offer 1 oz of cooled boiled water, once or twice a day. For babies over 6 months offer 2 oz once or twice a day.
Sugar
A remedy for constipation that has been around for centuries and still recommended today is to add some form of sugar to a baby’s diet. The sugar works by drawing additional fluid into baby’s bowel to soften the stools. Sugar can come from fruit, in the form of fructose or sorbitol or sucrose from sugar cane.
It’s commonly recommended to add sugar (particularly brown sugar) or corn syrup (Karo) to baby’s formula. Rather than do this, I suggest you offer it in a small amount of cooled boiled water for two reasons…
The additional water is helpful, and
If baby becomes accustomed to drinking the sweetened formula he may fuss with feeding once the sugar or corn syrup is stopped.
Caution: In previous generations, honey was recommended as a natural sugar to relieve constipation. It is no longer recommended that children under 12 months be offered honey because the associated risk of botulism (a gastro-intestinal illness).
Brown Sugar
Add ½ teaspoon of brown sugar (the one used for cooking) to 1 oz of cooled, boiled water.
Offer this to baby 3 times a day, directly before formula feeds, only until he passes a soft stool.
*Although brown sugar is recommended because it contains molasses, white sugar would do.
Karo syrup
Corn syrup is a mildly sweet, concentrated solution of sugars derived from corn starch. A common brand is Karo. Light Karo is recommended for treating infant constipation.
Add 1 teaspoon of Karo syrup to 4 oz of cooled boiled water. Offer 1 oz of this solution to baby from a bottle, just before formula feeds, twice a day only until he passes a soft stool.
Caution: Only add sugar or corn syrup to your little one’s diet if you are treating constipation.
Fruit juice
Offer diluted apple, prune or pear juice. Dilute the juice to ¼ strength to start with, by adding cooled boiled water to the juice. Slowly increase the concentration to ½ strength if necessary.
Offer 1 oz of diluted juice to babies 2 – 6 months or 2 oz for babies over 6 months, twice a day until the poop has softened. Give less rather than more to start with. Too much juice can result in abdominal gas, bloating and diarrhea.
Unlike added sugars (including Karo), fruit juice can be offered on a regular or daily basis to maintain soft stools.
Caution: Do not treat infant constipation with juice and additional sugars (including Karo) at the same time. Choose only one treatment.
Fruit
Rice cereal, bananas, and pureed apple can result in firmer stools. Carrots and squash are constipating for some babies. Prunes, peaches, pears, plums, apricots, and peas make stools softer.
For a baby under 9 months, avoid citrus fruits such as orange, grapefruit and pineapple as the acid content in these fruits can be harsh on little tummies, as well as the skin around his mouth and bottom (when it comes out).
Recommendations for relieving infant constipation
Babies under 2 months old
1. Offer additional water – 1 oz once or twice a day.
2. Try brown sugar or Karo syrup.
3. Change formula if constipation returns.
Babies between 2 – 6 months
1. Offer additional water – 1 or 2 oz once or twice a day.
2. Try brown sugar or Karo syrup OR diluted fruit juice.
3. Change formula if constipation returns
Babies over 6 months
1. Offer additional water - 2 oz once of twice a day.
2. Offer baby a mixed grain cereal.
3. Offer fruit juice or daily if necessary to maintain soft stools.
4. Increase the amount of fruit offered daily.
Babies over 12 months
1. Offer plenty of water.
2. Increase activity.
3. Check milk intake, decreasing the amount to 24 oz per day if necessary.
4. For those who are trained or in the process or toilet training, encourage regular toilet times or sit child on the potty after meals.
Medications
Laxatives
Laxatives are only necessary if natural remedies have failed or where constipation is severe. Although many different types of laxatives can be purchased over the counter, most laxatives are not suitable for babies and small children. If you feel your little one’s needs a laxative to relieve his constipation, we recommend you consult your doctor about the best treatment.
Different laxatives work in different ways.
Some simply soften the stool.
Others act as a peristaltic stimulant (in other words, they stimulate the natural contractions of the bowel, in order to push the stool out).
Some offer a combination of a softener with a peristaltic stimulant.
Others offer additional fibre.
Laxatives can be given to babies orally in the form of drops or anally by suppository or enema.
What to do when baby is constipated and strains
When baby strains, lift his knees to his chest (which is a natural squatting position). Or gently move his legs backwards and forwards in a ‘bicycle’ motion. Also…
Try a warm bath and/or a tummy massage.
Tummy massage
Baby’s large bowel sits in his abdomen in one large loop. Poop travels around his large bowel in a clockwise direction. To assist him to expel gas that can occur with constipation, it’s best to follow the natural path of his large bowel.
Put some oil on your hands and gently massage his abdomen (the area under his ribs) in a clockwise direction using long stroking actions. Alternate this with lifting his knees and the ‘bicycle’ motion.
When to see your doctor
If baby cries while straining.
If constipation remains a persistent problem.
If the number of wet diapers each day have also decreased.
If your baby passes an unusual stool or has blood in his poop.
If you notice any bleeding from baby’s anus.
For advice on suitable laxatives.
*If you are concerned your baby’s constipation is due to iron, please consult your doctor before making any changes to his diet.
*Constipation in infants is rarely due to excess iron. Low iron formula should only be given if recommended by your doctor
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take him to the doc. my son was 6 weeks old when he ended up in hospital due to constipation(he was only pooing once a week!) i had recently changed to sma hungry baby (because he was) and i think thats what caused it. i tried orange juice to help him but nothing worked and the doctor kept telling me he was crying 24/7 because of colic, and i knew it wasnt that. in the end he started passing out and turning blue because he was in that much pain, so i took him to the hospital and in the end i was listened to and my child was given lactulose. and he improved almost immediately(i also used to massage his bum cheeks together...dont ask why but it works) he eventually stopped needing the laxitive when he started on proper food. hes four now so it worked out alright in the end, thank god
If this was my baby I would be back down the doctors. My health visitor used to reccomend a small amount of fresh orange juice but that was 8 years ago so it may have changed since then but it never done any of my babies any harm. Have you asked your pharmacist sometimes they can be better than the doctors. I wouldnt leave it any longer then 2-3 days. Good luck.
Well years ago it was suggested to give the baby a drink of sugar water ( not too sweet) or a teaspoon of gripe water.
An old fashioned remedy but one which worked. My health visitor recommended it.
If it gets to three days, give him a baby-size glycerin suppository and he'll do a big doodle in under 20 minutes.
here are things i did with my baby and she was formula fed, and she had times like this. also pay attention if they are farting, if they are, then they are constipated. makesure to have rash cream on their tush at all times so it don't hurt when it comes out.
1. hold baby up on your chest with their legs bent. start patting their butt upwards for awhile. take a break, do it again. that always helped my child
2. once a day give them a bottle of water with some apple juice in it. that worked too.
3. lay them on their back, and bend their knees to their tummy and stretch out, keep doing that. GOOD LUCK!
I would say he's constipated. Try giving him prune juice.
if he starts crying because he's got a bellyache, give him a drink of boiled water with a tiny bit of sugar or a spot of apple juice in it. He'll be fine.
Use 1 less scoop of formula, eg: 7oz water 6 scoops.His body need to get used to the extra fats and stuff in the higher formula..Give plenty of cool boiled water to drink.If that doesn't work seek medical advice.
please see a real doctor, f you're really worried and nothing changes!!
As long as it's not causing him pain or discomfort then he's fine. They are right, he'll go on his own eventually. Although when he does, that diaper change won't be a lot of fun.
thats pretty normal for his age so do not worry. My son started going every other day at 3 months and now hes almost 5 months and still doing that. Its very normal so do not worry. The only thing you need to worry about is if they start not having many wet diapers. My son has not went in 2 days as well :).
i see everyone saying to give him water but the DR actually told us to stay away from it bc their kidneys are working overtime and water is the last thing they need for them (kidneys). Just wait another day I am sure he will have a bog poo tomorrow and everyone will feel better (I wish that for my son too, lol. )
it is perfectly normal ; scares the heck out of most parents .....
try feedin a jar of 1st prunes with a spoon ..... that will definately get him goin ....
my son started skipping days at two mths from twice a day and it scared us so bad ......
also Similac Advanced plus Iron makes babies poo alot ... just a regular 8 oz bottle should do the trick ....
my 15week old baby didn't go for7days.so i gave him 1ounce pure orange juice mixed with 1 once of boiled water. he went that evening.
Hi, a lot of people have suggested water, sugar water , juice etc, I wouldnt do this without checking with your doctor, as their kidneys may struggle to cope. There are a couple of other things you can try, massage his stomach in a clockwise direction around his belly button, this is the direction of the bowel and can help to get things moving. Also if you are in the UK, you can buy ready to drink cartons of formula which as they contain preservatives can help your son to become more regular, I swopped to this for a couple of months with my daughter and she was soon going regularly again.
2 days isnt really anything to worry about, just make sure you are still getting plenty of wet nappies and keep an eye on his stomach, if it appears to be bulging more than normal, or you can real a hard 'knot' when massaging then go back to your doctor. Hope this helps , I remember the worries of bowel movements and sympathise !!! :)
Make sure he has plenty of cooled boiled water to keep his system hydrated.
You could also try well-diluted fruit juice - orange or apple.
Don't go for the old fashioned sugared water idea, it just dries the system up further.
Second formula is harder to digest - that is the whole point of it - but the downside of this is that it can change bowel habits. Your baby not going for 2 days isn't really a cause for concern. Anything up to once a week is considered normal. He will probably get used to the formula in a few days and start to poop normally again.
i put my daughter on hungry baby milk and was told to add 1/2 oz of extra water to each feed so 7.5 water to 7 powder etc to help. baby needs to go to the loo as eventually it will poison his system (it will take a while so dont worry its not going to happen in the next couple days!)
my cousin had twins, 1 of which just stopped going to the loo, she is now on pica sulphate and latculose (sorry about the spelling) you may also find if hes straining that lifting his legs up so his knees are nearer his chin might help him a little too, this was what my cousin was told by the hospital dr.if he still doesnt go in the next couple days take him back to the dr!
DONT BE TOO ALARMED BUT WHAT I DID WAS GAVE MY KID THERE MILK THEN ON THE NEXT FEED ILL GIVE THEM A BOTTLE OF WATER SO'S THEY WONT BE CONSTIPATED AND NOW I HAVE GRANDCHILDS MY DAUGHTER NOW DOES WHAT I DID WITH THEM ONE FEED MILK NEXT FEED BOILED WATER COOLED
Are you breastfeeding too or just formula? If you are still producing milk, my advice would be to breastfeed him as much as you possibly can for a week. Breastmilk is the most suited to a baby's immature body and therefore doesn't put so much strain on the digestive system. I had this problem when I moved my baby onto solids at 6 months, after she became constipated, I stopped the solids, reverted back to breastfeeding only for 1 month on the advice of my breastfeeding counsellor and she was fine.
The poor little guy. It must be equally distressing for him as well since he has no idea what's happening. Best thing is to keep him hydrated. I know that at his age he has a sensitive stomach as well as the rest of his system. I wouldn't fool around, get him to your nearest hospital. The specialists there will likely put him on an IV and keep him for observation. Is he having runny bm's? If so, then wait a day or two for the formla to adjust. His system has to get used to the second formula. If in doubt, return to the first formula x 1/2. Still take him into the hospital where he can be checked properly. They have the X-ray machines, Lab and other Doctors available.
its
so bad because its inside and for baby is so hard to manage!
you must use a black draught or enema!
dont listen to everybody that baby get use ti it !I had a problem with my baby for about 5 month but in one day everythink will came ok!
You must do somethink as soon as possible!!!!!!
How do you convince your parents into letting you have a cell phone?
School is almost out and next year I will be playing sports.My friend will have to take me to practice in the mornings but if she gets sick a day how will she contact me?
Also I need a phone to contact my dad becaus the house phone is to busy.My mom could pay the cell bill with her child support money Plus I can get a cheap cell but how can I get her to buy me one?
Do you know anything about prepaid cellphones?How do you convince your parents into letting you have a cell phone?
This is a good question. I recently convinced my mom to buy me a plan. If you aren't going to use your phone every night to talk to your friends, I would suggest a prep aid plan. I've had one for over 2 years, and they are terrible if you talk to people a lot, but they are good if not that much. Theres a prepaid plan called virgin mobile (www.virginmobile.com) and they have great deals on phones. They have phones from anywhere between free and I think $90. You can pick either prepaid or monthly, and no contract. You can switch from prepaid to monthly anytime you would like, and the cheapest prepaid plan is $20 every 3 months. You should check it out.How do you convince your parents into letting you have a cell phone?
I have convinced my dad to get me a cellphone. I wrote a list of about 10 reasons (mostly practical reasons) of why i should have one and I got one. I also promised to pay for any extra minutes i went over on. And if youre wondering about pre paid phones, you pay for the minutes as you need them. theres is no going over in minutes on a prepaid phone, because once the minutes are gone, they are gone until you load more minutes on to it with a prepaid minutes card.
BE extra good!
Prepaid phone plans can be tricky sometimes so be sure to read between the lines...but they're much better if you're on a budget. just pay for the minutes and texts (this will get you if you are an avid texter) you used for the month. If you really like texting and stuff you should just get a phone plan with less minutes and unlimited texting (go w/ verizon or sprint, much more affordable in texting than AT%26amp;T)
If you are seriously having a problem convincing your parents...you could try a points system?
-For every good thing you do, you get points. The more points the better! When you reach a certain point, like a goal, you get your phone? (I know sounds like a cheezy parenting tip, but it works most of the time!)
Getting a free phone initially won't save you too much money...you only pay for the phone once. You pay for the contract monthly.
Good luck!
Buying the phone is the cheapest part. Paying the monthly fee is the problem. Why would you expect your mother to pay for a phone to call your father?? Don't use that excuse! Tell her that if you had a phone, she could always find you immediately and if your were in trouble you could call her. Appeal to her sense of ';motherhood'; where a mother protects her young.
If she gets a sick day she can call your house. You didn't mention how old you are. How about getting a part time job to make some money for yourself and maybe help out a bit?wholesale cosmetics
Also I need a phone to contact my dad becaus the house phone is to busy.My mom could pay the cell bill with her child support money Plus I can get a cheap cell but how can I get her to buy me one?
Do you know anything about prepaid cellphones?How do you convince your parents into letting you have a cell phone?
This is a good question. I recently convinced my mom to buy me a plan. If you aren't going to use your phone every night to talk to your friends, I would suggest a prep aid plan. I've had one for over 2 years, and they are terrible if you talk to people a lot, but they are good if not that much. Theres a prepaid plan called virgin mobile (www.virginmobile.com) and they have great deals on phones. They have phones from anywhere between free and I think $90. You can pick either prepaid or monthly, and no contract. You can switch from prepaid to monthly anytime you would like, and the cheapest prepaid plan is $20 every 3 months. You should check it out.How do you convince your parents into letting you have a cell phone?
I have convinced my dad to get me a cellphone. I wrote a list of about 10 reasons (mostly practical reasons) of why i should have one and I got one. I also promised to pay for any extra minutes i went over on. And if youre wondering about pre paid phones, you pay for the minutes as you need them. theres is no going over in minutes on a prepaid phone, because once the minutes are gone, they are gone until you load more minutes on to it with a prepaid minutes card.
BE extra good!
Prepaid phone plans can be tricky sometimes so be sure to read between the lines...but they're much better if you're on a budget. just pay for the minutes and texts (this will get you if you are an avid texter) you used for the month. If you really like texting and stuff you should just get a phone plan with less minutes and unlimited texting (go w/ verizon or sprint, much more affordable in texting than AT%26amp;T)
If you are seriously having a problem convincing your parents...you could try a points system?
-For every good thing you do, you get points. The more points the better! When you reach a certain point, like a goal, you get your phone? (I know sounds like a cheezy parenting tip, but it works most of the time!)
Getting a free phone initially won't save you too much money...you only pay for the phone once. You pay for the contract monthly.
Good luck!
Buying the phone is the cheapest part. Paying the monthly fee is the problem. Why would you expect your mother to pay for a phone to call your father?? Don't use that excuse! Tell her that if you had a phone, she could always find you immediately and if your were in trouble you could call her. Appeal to her sense of ';motherhood'; where a mother protects her young.
If she gets a sick day she can call your house. You didn't mention how old you are. How about getting a part time job to make some money for yourself and maybe help out a bit?
How can I convince my parents to let me take figure skating lessons?
My level right now is Pre-Alpha. I'm 10. I started last year. I really want to go through the levels quicker because I want to compete. My parents don't want to me to take lessons during the school year because it might affect my school work. I have always been a Straight A student.How can I convince my parents to let me take figure skating lessons?
Skating is a great way to find achievement in a different aspect of your life other than academics. It sounds like you are already a very responsible student, and if you can give your parents a plan on how you intend to balance your school commitments with your skating commitments to find success in both areas, you should be in good standing. Talk to them openly and honestly about what you think it will take for you to be successful in both areas. Also, please feel free to share my answer with them if you think it will help. :)
It is important to tell your parents that skating will teach you many things outside of just ';how to skate'; - it will help you work on performing well under pressure (good for taking hard tests at school, interviewing for college later, etc.), teach you how to win and lose with grace, how to stand up - literally and figuratively - when you fall down, how to support others around you as well as be positive about your own achievements, how to take care of your body in a healthy way and have good self-esteem, how to show a strong commitment to ethics and fairness in all areas of your life, and how to be responsible and independent - skating incorporates many vital ';life lessons'; that will benefit you for years to come.
I would also just like to point out that many of the best skaters out there are also really stellar students - the drive it takes to do well in skating is the same sort of drive it takes to do well in school, and skaters are generally very motivated to achieve in all areas they pursue. There are many, many skaters out there who maintain really high grades while skating - I've known skaters who graduated from high school in the top 2% of their class, skating 5 - 6 days a week the whole time, and excelling in both areas. It takes dedication, but it pays off in scholarships, jobs, and other areas later. I've never met a college admissions officer who has not absolutely loved a figure skater!
I'd also like to add that if you do well at skating, you'll have a job ready to go when the time comes - skaters who work hard at learning technique and do well in the sport can go on to become coaches - a great job to have during college due to its flexibility in schedules and high rate of pay. I've taken this route, and paid my own tuition through college by teaching skating - far better than student loans and debt! Teaching skating can be a great way to supplement your income later in life, or can serve as a primary profession or ';back up'; plan if you need it to.
I hope that this helps you convince your parents that skating and school can go together, and one can help the other!
As far as ';last levels'; in skating, right now your level is in the International Skating Institute (ISI) system. Those classes run from Pre-Alpha through Delta for basic skills, and then go from Freestyle 1 -10.
Senior level is under the United States Figure Skating (USFS) system, which is usually taught privately through lessons with a coach. That starts at Pre-Preliminary, and goes through Senior (8 levels total), with lots of different areas of skating: Moves-in-the-Field (footwork and edges), Freestyle (individual jumps and spins), Pairs (team jumps, spins and lifts), and Ice Dance (team edges, footwork and lifts). A Senior test under the USFS system earns you a gold medal, and if you have your Moves and a different discipline test, you can compete at the Senior level (like those lucky few who make it to national competitions or the Olympics) by skating well competitively.
Good luck with all you are working on, and I hope that this information helps. I can personally say that skating made all the difference in the world to me in finding success, and I hope that you will have a chance to discover the same!How can I convince my parents to let me take figure skating lessons?
Have your parents come and watch one of your lessons, this way they can see how well you are doing in figure skating. You can also have your parents let you take lessons on the weekend instead of the weekdays. When your parents finally let you, start slow, and take one lesson a week, once you prove to them that you can keep up your grades and skate maybe then you can start taking more. Have fun and keep skating! You sound like a really good skater who is dedicated to your sport!
just tell them that skating is really important to you and is apart of who you want to be.tell them if they belive in you they will let you continue skating because they will trust that your grades wont slip and you will study hard. plus your only 10 years old. you cant really get a bad mark in grade 5
The last level in figure skating is ';I won the Olympic gold medal.';
You are most unlikely to get anywhere unless you skate year round. An hour a week wouldn't hurt your schoolwork - in fact regular exercise has been proven to help kids concentrate better.
Skating is a great way to find achievement in a different aspect of your life other than academics. It sounds like you are already a very responsible student, and if you can give your parents a plan on how you intend to balance your school commitments with your skating commitments to find success in both areas, you should be in good standing. Talk to them openly and honestly about what you think it will take for you to be successful in both areas. Also, please feel free to share my answer with them if you think it will help. :)
It is important to tell your parents that skating will teach you many things outside of just ';how to skate'; - it will help you work on performing well under pressure (good for taking hard tests at school, interviewing for college later, etc.), teach you how to win and lose with grace, how to stand up - literally and figuratively - when you fall down, how to support others around you as well as be positive about your own achievements, how to take care of your body in a healthy way and have good self-esteem, how to show a strong commitment to ethics and fairness in all areas of your life, and how to be responsible and independent - skating incorporates many vital ';life lessons'; that will benefit you for years to come.
I would also just like to point out that many of the best skaters out there are also really stellar students - the drive it takes to do well in skating is the same sort of drive it takes to do well in school, and skaters are generally very motivated to achieve in all areas they pursue. There are many, many skaters out there who maintain really high grades while skating - I've known skaters who graduated from high school in the top 2% of their class, skating 5 - 6 days a week the whole time, and excelling in both areas. It takes dedication, but it pays off in scholarships, jobs, and other areas later. I've never met a college admissions officer who has not absolutely loved a figure skater!
I'd also like to add that if you do well at skating, you'll have a job ready to go when the time comes - skaters who work hard at learning technique and do well in the sport can go on to become coaches - a great job to have during college due to its flexibility in schedules and high rate of pay. I've taken this route, and paid my own tuition through college by teaching skating - far better than student loans and debt! Teaching skating can be a great way to supplement your income later in life, or can serve as a primary profession or ';back up'; plan if you need it to.
I hope that this helps you convince your parents that skating and school can go together, and one can help the other!
As far as ';last levels'; in skating, right now your level is in the International Skating Institute (ISI) system. Those classes run from Pre-Alpha through Delta for basic skills, and then go from Freestyle 1 -10.
Senior level is under the United States Figure Skating (USFS) system, which is usually taught privately through lessons with a coach. That starts at Pre-Preliminary, and goes through Senior (8 levels total), with lots of different areas of skating: Moves-in-the-Field (footwork and edges), Freestyle (individual jumps and spins), Pairs (team jumps, spins and lifts), and Ice Dance (team edges, footwork and lifts). A Senior test under the USFS system earns you a gold medal, and if you have your Moves and a different discipline test, you can compete at the Senior level (like those lucky few who make it to national competitions or the Olympics) by skating well competitively.
Good luck with all you are working on, and I hope that this information helps. I can personally say that skating made all the difference in the world to me in finding success, and I hope that you will have a chance to discover the same!How can I convince my parents to let me take figure skating lessons?
Have your parents come and watch one of your lessons, this way they can see how well you are doing in figure skating. You can also have your parents let you take lessons on the weekend instead of the weekdays. When your parents finally let you, start slow, and take one lesson a week, once you prove to them that you can keep up your grades and skate maybe then you can start taking more. Have fun and keep skating! You sound like a really good skater who is dedicated to your sport!
just tell them that skating is really important to you and is apart of who you want to be.tell them if they belive in you they will let you continue skating because they will trust that your grades wont slip and you will study hard. plus your only 10 years old. you cant really get a bad mark in grade 5
The last level in figure skating is ';I won the Olympic gold medal.';
You are most unlikely to get anywhere unless you skate year round. An hour a week wouldn't hurt your schoolwork - in fact regular exercise has been proven to help kids concentrate better.
How can I convince my parents to getting a mouse?
I really want one and they know I am responsible. The biggest problem is they don't like the smell. Maybe I can keep it in the garage? Where the smell won't come in. Please I really need suggestions. I have even made a power point for them.....
Thanks in advance!How can I convince my parents to getting a mouse?
If your willing to put in the effort to keep the cage clean smell isn't really an issue. Also alot of the shavings that you use for bedding smell really nice themselves. Using a wire cage as opposed to an aquarium provides more ventilation so better smell. Mice are really intelligent animals and can have diverse personalities. Remind them too that (unfortunately) their life span is only a few years so they aren't looking at a life long commitment.
Thanks in advance!How can I convince my parents to getting a mouse?
If your willing to put in the effort to keep the cage clean smell isn't really an issue. Also alot of the shavings that you use for bedding smell really nice themselves. Using a wire cage as opposed to an aquarium provides more ventilation so better smell. Mice are really intelligent animals and can have diverse personalities. Remind them too that (unfortunately) their life span is only a few years so they aren't looking at a life long commitment.
How would you ask the parents for thier daughters hand in marriage?
My girlfriend is the type that would want me to ask her parents for their blessing. How do you bring it up i find it kind of awkward to be like hey mr. _____ i love your daughter she loves me can i have your blessing to marry her. How do you bring it up get to the topic i don't know how to start it or anything.How would you ask the parents for thier daughters hand in marriage?
Just tell them the truth, like you said ';I love your daughter more then anyone and care for her deeply I believe she feels the same way about me. So I would like to ask for your blessing to ask her to be my wife.';
If they see how much you love her you shouldn't have a problem.
Good LuckHow would you ask the parents for thier daughters hand in marriage?
This is a lot easier than you're making it - this is not the kind of thing that you work into a casual conversation, so don't make it one, otherwise they'll think you're nuts.
Just call them, set up a time to go over, and ask to speak to both of them. Very likely, they'll sit you down in the living room, and you simply say what you just told us (without the ';hey, Mister'; part). Tell them you love her and want to marry her, and ask for their blessing (their, not just his - trust me, 9 times out of 10 it'll make a great impression on Mom).
Tell them if you're keeping the proposal a secret, and when you're planning on doing it (so they don't drop the ball on you), and you're done.
ask her father if you can take him out to dinner, just the two of you. take him to a very nice place, pay for the dinner and leave a 23% tip.
after dinner, while having coffee, look him straight in the eye, and say, man to man, '; mr. ---, i love your daughter. i care for her and i will always be loyal to her and take care of her to the best of my ability. i would like to know if i could have your blessing to ask her to marry me.
that is how it is done, man to man.
I made my boyfriend ask, and set them up to do it. My dad was cooking in the kitchen and I gave my boyfriend a job to do there and then left them alone for a bit. My bf plucked up the courage to ask, and we are getting married in August. Good luck!
just be like:
mr_________ i love your daugter, i will never hurt her and want to be with her till the day i die, i love her more than enything the world and would be happuy if you would give me your blessing to marry her
good luck!!!! x
Things like this are better done on the fly. Just stand up and do it. Her parents are probably already aware of your plans, being older and wiser than you. They're just wondering what's taking you so long. ;)
invite them to dinner and ask them there, privately. When they get the private dinner invite (without your GF attending), they will probably realize why they are there. This way, you won't be interrupted and you'll show your respect!
Roll up in your sick ride, making certain you have added spinners. Ride up to her parents' abode and honk the horn loudly. If no one comes out, continue to honk the horn until someone does. If this doesn't work, try screaming, ';Yo, bitches, where you at?'; If still no one comes out of the house, nobody is home, and you should come back later and repeat. But chances are, by this point, someone will walk to your car. If it is the mother of your girlfriend, inform her that she should get her husband and return to the kitchen, where she belongs, because this is man's business. Once the father comes to greet you, make him kiss your rings. If he doesn't, rev your engine and threaten to run him over. Once he kisses your rings, you are ready to proceed. Say the following, verbatim, to your future father-in-law:
';*****, I already been ******' your daughter for like two years now, and it's time I make sure she ain't be sleepin' around so that I don't catch the clap again like I did last year. Now, you best be giving me your blessing because she's being a tight ***** and won't let me cage her without your permission. So what'll it be?';
If he doesn't respond, take that as a yes. If he says anything inflammatory, rev your engine again and threaten not only to run him over, this time, but to drive through the garage (into the kitchen) and run his wife over.
This will be the most successful means to achieve your engagement. Best of luck!
Just tell them the truth, like you said ';I love your daughter more then anyone and care for her deeply I believe she feels the same way about me. So I would like to ask for your blessing to ask her to be my wife.';
If they see how much you love her you shouldn't have a problem.
Good LuckHow would you ask the parents for thier daughters hand in marriage?
This is a lot easier than you're making it - this is not the kind of thing that you work into a casual conversation, so don't make it one, otherwise they'll think you're nuts.
Just call them, set up a time to go over, and ask to speak to both of them. Very likely, they'll sit you down in the living room, and you simply say what you just told us (without the ';hey, Mister'; part). Tell them you love her and want to marry her, and ask for their blessing (their, not just his - trust me, 9 times out of 10 it'll make a great impression on Mom).
Tell them if you're keeping the proposal a secret, and when you're planning on doing it (so they don't drop the ball on you), and you're done.
ask her father if you can take him out to dinner, just the two of you. take him to a very nice place, pay for the dinner and leave a 23% tip.
after dinner, while having coffee, look him straight in the eye, and say, man to man, '; mr. ---, i love your daughter. i care for her and i will always be loyal to her and take care of her to the best of my ability. i would like to know if i could have your blessing to ask her to marry me.
that is how it is done, man to man.
I made my boyfriend ask, and set them up to do it. My dad was cooking in the kitchen and I gave my boyfriend a job to do there and then left them alone for a bit. My bf plucked up the courage to ask, and we are getting married in August. Good luck!
just be like:
mr_________ i love your daugter, i will never hurt her and want to be with her till the day i die, i love her more than enything the world and would be happuy if you would give me your blessing to marry her
good luck!!!! x
Things like this are better done on the fly. Just stand up and do it. Her parents are probably already aware of your plans, being older and wiser than you. They're just wondering what's taking you so long. ;)
invite them to dinner and ask them there, privately. When they get the private dinner invite (without your GF attending), they will probably realize why they are there. This way, you won't be interrupted and you'll show your respect!
Roll up in your sick ride, making certain you have added spinners. Ride up to her parents' abode and honk the horn loudly. If no one comes out, continue to honk the horn until someone does. If this doesn't work, try screaming, ';Yo, bitches, where you at?'; If still no one comes out of the house, nobody is home, and you should come back later and repeat. But chances are, by this point, someone will walk to your car. If it is the mother of your girlfriend, inform her that she should get her husband and return to the kitchen, where she belongs, because this is man's business. Once the father comes to greet you, make him kiss your rings. If he doesn't, rev your engine and threaten to run him over. Once he kisses your rings, you are ready to proceed. Say the following, verbatim, to your future father-in-law:
';*****, I already been ******' your daughter for like two years now, and it's time I make sure she ain't be sleepin' around so that I don't catch the clap again like I did last year. Now, you best be giving me your blessing because she's being a tight ***** and won't let me cage her without your permission. So what'll it be?';
If he doesn't respond, take that as a yes. If he says anything inflammatory, rev your engine again and threaten not only to run him over, this time, but to drive through the garage (into the kitchen) and run his wife over.
This will be the most successful means to achieve your engagement. Best of luck!
How can I convince my parents to getting a mouse?
I really want one and they know I am responsible. The biggest problem is they don't like the smell. Maybe I can keep it in the garage? Where the smell won't come in. Please I really need suggestions. I have even made a power point for them.....
Thanks in advance!How can I convince my parents to getting a mouse?
If your willing to put in the effort to keep the cage clean smell isn't really an issue. Also alot of the shavings that you use for bedding smell really nice themselves. Using a wire cage as opposed to an aquarium provides more ventilation so better smell. Mice are really intelligent animals and can have diverse personalities. Remind them too that (unfortunately) their life span is only a few years so they aren't looking at a life long commitment.
Thanks in advance!How can I convince my parents to getting a mouse?
If your willing to put in the effort to keep the cage clean smell isn't really an issue. Also alot of the shavings that you use for bedding smell really nice themselves. Using a wire cage as opposed to an aquarium provides more ventilation so better smell. Mice are really intelligent animals and can have diverse personalities. Remind them too that (unfortunately) their life span is only a few years so they aren't looking at a life long commitment.
How would you ask the parents for thier daughters hand in marriage?
My girlfriend is the type that would want me to ask her parents for their blessing. How do you bring it up i find it kind of awkward to be like hey mr. _____ i love your daughter she loves me can i have your blessing to marry her. How do you bring it up get to the topic i don't know how to start it or anything.How would you ask the parents for thier daughters hand in marriage?
Just tell them the truth, like you said ';I love your daughter more then anyone and care for her deeply I believe she feels the same way about me. So I would like to ask for your blessing to ask her to be my wife.';
If they see how much you love her you shouldn't have a problem.
Good LuckHow would you ask the parents for thier daughters hand in marriage?
This is a lot easier than you're making it - this is not the kind of thing that you work into a casual conversation, so don't make it one, otherwise they'll think you're nuts.
Just call them, set up a time to go over, and ask to speak to both of them. Very likely, they'll sit you down in the living room, and you simply say what you just told us (without the ';hey, Mister'; part). Tell them you love her and want to marry her, and ask for their blessing (their, not just his - trust me, 9 times out of 10 it'll make a great impression on Mom).
Tell them if you're keeping the proposal a secret, and when you're planning on doing it (so they don't drop the ball on you), and you're done.
ask her father if you can take him out to dinner, just the two of you. take him to a very nice place, pay for the dinner and leave a 23% tip.
after dinner, while having coffee, look him straight in the eye, and say, man to man, '; mr. ---, i love your daughter. i care for her and i will always be loyal to her and take care of her to the best of my ability. i would like to know if i could have your blessing to ask her to marry me.
that is how it is done, man to man.
I made my boyfriend ask, and set them up to do it. My dad was cooking in the kitchen and I gave my boyfriend a job to do there and then left them alone for a bit. My bf plucked up the courage to ask, and we are getting married in August. Good luck!
just be like:
mr_________ i love your daugter, i will never hurt her and want to be with her till the day i die, i love her more than enything the world and would be happuy if you would give me your blessing to marry her
good luck!!!! x
Things like this are better done on the fly. Just stand up and do it. Her parents are probably already aware of your plans, being older and wiser than you. They're just wondering what's taking you so long. ;)
invite them to dinner and ask them there, privately. When they get the private dinner invite (without your GF attending), they will probably realize why they are there. This way, you won't be interrupted and you'll show your respect!
Roll up in your sick ride, making certain you have added spinners. Ride up to her parents' abode and honk the horn loudly. If no one comes out, continue to honk the horn until someone does. If this doesn't work, try screaming, ';Yo, bitches, where you at?'; If still no one comes out of the house, nobody is home, and you should come back later and repeat. But chances are, by this point, someone will walk to your car. If it is the mother of your girlfriend, inform her that she should get her husband and return to the kitchen, where she belongs, because this is man's business. Once the father comes to greet you, make him kiss your rings. If he doesn't, rev your engine and threaten to run him over. Once he kisses your rings, you are ready to proceed. Say the following, verbatim, to your future father-in-law:
';*****, I already been fuckin' your daughter for like two years now, and it's time I make sure she ain't be sleepin' around so that I don't catch the clap again like I did last year. Now, you best be giving me your blessing because she's being a tight ***** and won't let me cage her without your permission. So what'll it be?';
If he doesn't respond, take that as a yes. If he says anything inflammatory, rev your engine again and threaten not only to run him over, this time, but to drive through the garage (into the kitchen) and run his wife over.
This will be the most successful means to achieve your engagement. Best of luck!
Just tell them the truth, like you said ';I love your daughter more then anyone and care for her deeply I believe she feels the same way about me. So I would like to ask for your blessing to ask her to be my wife.';
If they see how much you love her you shouldn't have a problem.
Good LuckHow would you ask the parents for thier daughters hand in marriage?
This is a lot easier than you're making it - this is not the kind of thing that you work into a casual conversation, so don't make it one, otherwise they'll think you're nuts.
Just call them, set up a time to go over, and ask to speak to both of them. Very likely, they'll sit you down in the living room, and you simply say what you just told us (without the ';hey, Mister'; part). Tell them you love her and want to marry her, and ask for their blessing (their, not just his - trust me, 9 times out of 10 it'll make a great impression on Mom).
Tell them if you're keeping the proposal a secret, and when you're planning on doing it (so they don't drop the ball on you), and you're done.
ask her father if you can take him out to dinner, just the two of you. take him to a very nice place, pay for the dinner and leave a 23% tip.
after dinner, while having coffee, look him straight in the eye, and say, man to man, '; mr. ---, i love your daughter. i care for her and i will always be loyal to her and take care of her to the best of my ability. i would like to know if i could have your blessing to ask her to marry me.
that is how it is done, man to man.
I made my boyfriend ask, and set them up to do it. My dad was cooking in the kitchen and I gave my boyfriend a job to do there and then left them alone for a bit. My bf plucked up the courage to ask, and we are getting married in August. Good luck!
just be like:
mr_________ i love your daugter, i will never hurt her and want to be with her till the day i die, i love her more than enything the world and would be happuy if you would give me your blessing to marry her
good luck!!!! x
Things like this are better done on the fly. Just stand up and do it. Her parents are probably already aware of your plans, being older and wiser than you. They're just wondering what's taking you so long. ;)
invite them to dinner and ask them there, privately. When they get the private dinner invite (without your GF attending), they will probably realize why they are there. This way, you won't be interrupted and you'll show your respect!
Roll up in your sick ride, making certain you have added spinners. Ride up to her parents' abode and honk the horn loudly. If no one comes out, continue to honk the horn until someone does. If this doesn't work, try screaming, ';Yo, bitches, where you at?'; If still no one comes out of the house, nobody is home, and you should come back later and repeat. But chances are, by this point, someone will walk to your car. If it is the mother of your girlfriend, inform her that she should get her husband and return to the kitchen, where she belongs, because this is man's business. Once the father comes to greet you, make him kiss your rings. If he doesn't, rev your engine and threaten to run him over. Once he kisses your rings, you are ready to proceed. Say the following, verbatim, to your future father-in-law:
';*****, I already been fuckin' your daughter for like two years now, and it's time I make sure she ain't be sleepin' around so that I don't catch the clap again like I did last year. Now, you best be giving me your blessing because she's being a tight ***** and won't let me cage her without your permission. So what'll it be?';
If he doesn't respond, take that as a yes. If he says anything inflammatory, rev your engine again and threaten not only to run him over, this time, but to drive through the garage (into the kitchen) and run his wife over.
This will be the most successful means to achieve your engagement. Best of luck!
How should I tell my parents about the second piercing I got in my ears yesterday?
I got it done in a jewellers when I went shopping yesterday. My mum said I would be allowed one but my dad is against piercings. I haven't told my parents yet but I want to. What do you reckon I should say to them to spill the beans?How should I tell my parents about the second piercing I got in my ears yesterday?
show your mum first :)How should I tell my parents about the second piercing I got in my ears yesterday?
How old are you? If you're an adult (legally)...then I would just tell tell them up front that you wanted another piercing, you respect their opinion, but you are, however an adult and made the decision to get one. You can always take it out, where ever it might be. Maybe explain to them that you didn't do it to spite them, it's just part of who you are. At least you didn't go get a tattoo all over yourself if they were opposed to that. They can be but are a little harder (and expensive) to remove in full. When I was 18, I wanted a tattoo and I also wanted my tongue pierced. I don't think my parents thought either were flattering. I asked them which one, if I were going to get one would they like more...surprising the tattoo. So I got one, and they both were OK with it. My conservative step-mom even thinks it's cute. They'll accept it and move on.
Go up to them and show them. Say it was a mistake, but since you had to pay for it yourself, could you keep it?
If they tell you to take it out don't scream and stomp off. Just say ok. And do it. If you want them that bad, wear them at school, at home when they're not around, and any other time that your not with them. But don't forget they're in.
Just go up to your mum, show her your ear and say ';what do you think then?'; She probably will take a few minutes to even notice what you're showing her!
Good luck with that, I still have to tell my parents about the nipple piercings I got....9 months ago :O
Just wear the ear rings, and then wait for their reply, because they will notice anyway. Say you didnt think nothing was wrong with it, because you already had one piercing and that is the style and all your friends have double piercings.
just show them your ears!! then hand them cream cakes :-)wholesale cosmetics
show your mum first :)How should I tell my parents about the second piercing I got in my ears yesterday?
How old are you? If you're an adult (legally)...then I would just tell tell them up front that you wanted another piercing, you respect their opinion, but you are, however an adult and made the decision to get one. You can always take it out, where ever it might be. Maybe explain to them that you didn't do it to spite them, it's just part of who you are. At least you didn't go get a tattoo all over yourself if they were opposed to that. They can be but are a little harder (and expensive) to remove in full. When I was 18, I wanted a tattoo and I also wanted my tongue pierced. I don't think my parents thought either were flattering. I asked them which one, if I were going to get one would they like more...surprising the tattoo. So I got one, and they both were OK with it. My conservative step-mom even thinks it's cute. They'll accept it and move on.
Go up to them and show them. Say it was a mistake, but since you had to pay for it yourself, could you keep it?
If they tell you to take it out don't scream and stomp off. Just say ok. And do it. If you want them that bad, wear them at school, at home when they're not around, and any other time that your not with them. But don't forget they're in.
Just go up to your mum, show her your ear and say ';what do you think then?'; She probably will take a few minutes to even notice what you're showing her!
Good luck with that, I still have to tell my parents about the nipple piercings I got....9 months ago :O
Just wear the ear rings, and then wait for their reply, because they will notice anyway. Say you didnt think nothing was wrong with it, because you already had one piercing and that is the style and all your friends have double piercings.
just show them your ears!! then hand them cream cakes :-)
How do I get my parents to pay less attention to me, they are very clingy and overprotective?
I hate saying mean things about my parents but I need space and to do my own thing. It's hard for us to communicate because we don't really speak each other's native language very well. I also don't think it's fair for them to completely leave their parents in another country and then to expect me to see them every week. I live on my own for a reason.How do I get my parents to pay less attention to me, they are very clingy and overprotective?
Wow ,I just dont know really what to say .I am also a parent and I tend to be clingy and overprotective . Somethings you have to over look but then somethings they have to over look as well . Your going to have to sit them down and just explain to them that you are being smothered . It may help may not .IT took me alot to not smother my children .Children cannot be replaced .But at least they care enough about you to be up your *** though ......lol . Sorry that your going through this .How do I get my parents to pay less attention to me, they are very clingy and overprotective?
Your gonna have to be firm. Your gonna have to be ready to accept your parents being upset with you. Or live like this for the rest of your life. Put down your foot and dont let them in on every detail of your life. If you say your too busy to do soemthing then they should nt be able to go down the line of your schedule and say ';no...your free, you have time';. Get strong, stay strong. This wont go away till you make them learn...
you are selfish, thank your lucky stars that you have parents and that they care about you, you can't take a week-end each week to see them, something is wrong with you.
Wow ,I just dont know really what to say .I am also a parent and I tend to be clingy and overprotective . Somethings you have to over look but then somethings they have to over look as well . Your going to have to sit them down and just explain to them that you are being smothered . It may help may not .IT took me alot to not smother my children .Children cannot be replaced .But at least they care enough about you to be up your *** though ......lol . Sorry that your going through this .How do I get my parents to pay less attention to me, they are very clingy and overprotective?
Your gonna have to be firm. Your gonna have to be ready to accept your parents being upset with you. Or live like this for the rest of your life. Put down your foot and dont let them in on every detail of your life. If you say your too busy to do soemthing then they should nt be able to go down the line of your schedule and say ';no...your free, you have time';. Get strong, stay strong. This wont go away till you make them learn...
you are selfish, thank your lucky stars that you have parents and that they care about you, you can't take a week-end each week to see them, something is wrong with you.
How do I tell my parents something that will make them incredibly disappointed in me?
I've been practicing my tennis all year so I can make the school team this year. My parents paid a lot for private lessons and equipment and even clothes and stuff, and I've honestly tried my hardest and given it my all. However, we're about to make cuts and I'm almost positive I'm going to get cut. I simply play very poorly under pressure and haven't won enough games to stay on the team. How can I break it to my parents after they've done so much?How do I tell my parents something that will make them incredibly disappointed in me?
They've done their best to help you out and you've given it your best shot. They might be disappointed but you have to live your own life. Parents can only give their children the opportunities and hope that they help, so maybe if you tell them that you really appreciate everything they've done but you're just not suited to competition playing. Maybe you could convince them to come out and have a friendly game with you so that they can see all their hard work hasn't been wasted as you still sound like you do enjoy it. I can think of far more disappointing things to hear from a child than that so I hope you manage to tell them easily. Good luck.How do I tell my parents something that will make them incredibly disappointed in me?
You might be surprised. When you tell them, let them know that you recognize and appreciate all they have done to support you. Tell them honestly why you believe you did not make the team. Tell them, if you intend to try next year, what you will do to improve.
Also, examine your own thoughts. If winning is so important that you feel anxiety and ';play poorly under pressure';, are you learning the most important lessons? Learning any skill is partly about winning. It is also about understanding the concept of practice, of learning to analyze what went wrong when you do not perform well, about doing your personal best and accepting that as a win, whatever the scoreboard says. It is about learning how to win and how to lose. So try to look at other types of lessons you may be learning. Tell your parents about them too. They will appreciate them more than ANY won-lost record.
You sound very dedicated and grateful for what your parents have done for. Good for you, that's something you don't see as often as you should these days.
If your parents have a similar level of respect for you that you show for them, then just being honest with them would be the best approach.
My only concern would be if they are trying to live out their dreams through you (maybe they dream at night of you winning wimbleton and paying for their retirement?). If not, be confident, your parents will stick with you NO MATTER WHAT.
Wait until you are actually cut. In the greater scheme of things this is not bad. I had to tell my dad I was pregnant just before leaving for college, when he was paying my tuition. Worst day of my life.
Just tell them you are sorry and you did your best.
If you don't make the school team, so what? There are probably amateur leagues in your town. Play in one of those, or just play for fun! Try out for the team again next year.
Tell them just like you told us...make it clear that there are others on the team who are better than you, and you gave it your all! Not your fault if the school has to make cuts- but let them hear it from you first.
Tell them you have a girl friend....
Show your dad a picture of a girl.. said girl is a ******* babe. He will say NICE GET DUDE.
Tell your mom shes incredably relgious and doesnt want sex.
GOOD GET SON!11
Well if they cant see that you have given everything you got.. Then shame on them.. Parents these days push and push there kids to be the greats in everything.. But one thing they need to understand that always winning or being number 1, is not always going to happen.. We parents need to love our kids for who they are not what they can or can not do.. From a parent to you, who cares if you were cut you gave it your best.. That's all that matters... Good luck Kiddo
They've done their best to help you out and you've given it your best shot. They might be disappointed but you have to live your own life. Parents can only give their children the opportunities and hope that they help, so maybe if you tell them that you really appreciate everything they've done but you're just not suited to competition playing. Maybe you could convince them to come out and have a friendly game with you so that they can see all their hard work hasn't been wasted as you still sound like you do enjoy it. I can think of far more disappointing things to hear from a child than that so I hope you manage to tell them easily. Good luck.How do I tell my parents something that will make them incredibly disappointed in me?
You might be surprised. When you tell them, let them know that you recognize and appreciate all they have done to support you. Tell them honestly why you believe you did not make the team. Tell them, if you intend to try next year, what you will do to improve.
Also, examine your own thoughts. If winning is so important that you feel anxiety and ';play poorly under pressure';, are you learning the most important lessons? Learning any skill is partly about winning. It is also about understanding the concept of practice, of learning to analyze what went wrong when you do not perform well, about doing your personal best and accepting that as a win, whatever the scoreboard says. It is about learning how to win and how to lose. So try to look at other types of lessons you may be learning. Tell your parents about them too. They will appreciate them more than ANY won-lost record.
You sound very dedicated and grateful for what your parents have done for. Good for you, that's something you don't see as often as you should these days.
If your parents have a similar level of respect for you that you show for them, then just being honest with them would be the best approach.
My only concern would be if they are trying to live out their dreams through you (maybe they dream at night of you winning wimbleton and paying for their retirement?). If not, be confident, your parents will stick with you NO MATTER WHAT.
Wait until you are actually cut. In the greater scheme of things this is not bad. I had to tell my dad I was pregnant just before leaving for college, when he was paying my tuition. Worst day of my life.
Just tell them you are sorry and you did your best.
If you don't make the school team, so what? There are probably amateur leagues in your town. Play in one of those, or just play for fun! Try out for the team again next year.
Tell them just like you told us...make it clear that there are others on the team who are better than you, and you gave it your all! Not your fault if the school has to make cuts- but let them hear it from you first.
Tell them you have a girl friend....
Show your dad a picture of a girl.. said girl is a ******* babe. He will say NICE GET DUDE.
Tell your mom shes incredably relgious and doesnt want sex.
GOOD GET SON!11
Well if they cant see that you have given everything you got.. Then shame on them.. Parents these days push and push there kids to be the greats in everything.. But one thing they need to understand that always winning or being number 1, is not always going to happen.. We parents need to love our kids for who they are not what they can or can not do.. From a parent to you, who cares if you were cut you gave it your best.. That's all that matters... Good luck Kiddo
How do i get my parents approval of joining the army?
I wish to join the army after high school to help pay for college and pursue my career choice. But my parents refuse to talk about it any time it comes up. Every time I request army info in the mail they hide it or throw it away and every time recruiters call they say im not interested. What do I do?How do i get my parents approval of joining the army?
Hello Vetkid.
As you have chosen that name it means to me that your father was in the Army.
And, he doesn't want you to join.
But, it is NOT his decision.
When you are 18 you don't need any parent's approval to join the military.
You need to do this now:
#1. Keep your mouth shut about anything military with them.
#2. Use the Internet to obtain preliminary information while you are in high school. You didn't say what grade you are in currently, so I don't know how close to being 18 years old you are.
#3. Go to usmilitary.about.com and then click on the tab that says ENLISTMENT and then scroll down to Army Jobs and Air Force Jobs and Marine Jobs and Navy Jobs and read all about them.
#4. Don't request written pamphlets from recruiters to come to the house or phone you. You can, if you have your driver's license by now, go visit them and talk with them in the office and tell them not to mail stuff or call on the phone.
#5. Go to the public library and study the practice for the ASVAB tests (Armed Service Vocational Aptitude Battery exams) which you will have to take before you can enlist.
#6. Show your parents that you are getting great grades (nothing lower than a ';C';) in your school subjects. All good grades will help you in whichever military service you join.
THEN, when you become 18 years old and actually graduate high school you can do what you wish regardless of your parent's wishes.
Keep a low military profile at this point. You are wearing your parents out and they are becoming ';nuts'; over your talk about the Army. Give them a break.
You have plenty of time ahead to grow and learn before you have to make that first ADULT decision.
Best wishes,
Larry Smith
SMSgt, USAF (Ret.)
First SergeantHow do i get my parents approval of joining the army?
All the information is on line and you seem to have computer access. You can chat with recruiters on the Army websites. If you want to go to college, you should look into army rotc. It's the best deal the army has going to pay for college. You can even participate in rotc while attending a community college if it has cross town arrangements with a university with an rotc program. Also consider the army's ecp(early commissioning program) at the military jc's. Commission as a 2nd lieutenant in 2 years and most of the cost of schooling would be paid for by an army rotc scholarship if a cadet qualifies. After graduating the jc and commissioning the 2nd Lieutenant goes directly to a 4 year university with an rotc program and earns a bachelors degree, when he graduates he goes on active duty as a 1st lieutenant earning about 18,000/year more than a freshly commissioned 2nd Lieutenant. Your parents might be more amenable to your going to college and joining rotc and then commissioning as an officer. Feel free to e mail me if you need any more info on what I wrote above.
Like others have told you, once your 18, it's no longer their call. A little advice about dealing with recruiters. GET ANY AND ALL GUARANTEES FOR SCHOOLS OR SPECIALTIES IN WRITING. Yeah, they seem like nice guys and most of them are but don't listen to any garbage about how you'll be able to specialize latter because chances are you'll be filling an infantry billet unless your already bringing desirable language or technical skills to the table. Cut your parents some slack also because they love you and are frightened of losing you. If it's what you want they'll have to accept it but be a standup guy from the beginning and let them know you understand their fears but need to lead your own life if your ever going to be a real adult. In advance, thanks for your service and good luck.
Yea not much else anyone can tell ya. The others pretty much said it. Once your 18, parents have no say. As for convincing, if you cant, you cant, its just that simple. Some parents refuse to think about that possibility. Once your 18 tho they cant stop you. .
If you are eighteen years of age you can do what ever the bloody hell you want. You will legally be an adult and therefore do not need the consent of your parents. As far as getting literature, use a friends address, with their permission of course.
Some suggestions:
- think it over at least 100 times
- go visit infowars dot com and similar websites. Read 100 articles.
- wait until you're 18.
And then hopefully you make an educated decision. Being a soldier isn't as fun as playing Halo or Counter-Strike. Trust me.
they just dont want the thought of you going out to die. it's not something you can help them understand.
you're risking your life for money and there's more things to life than money
The posts about 18 yrs old are good.
Also, most schools have army recruiters, you may have one at your school! :D
Go to the recruiter directly, or go to www.goarmy.com
Once you are 18, they cannot stop you from enlisting.
Until then, you'll just have to suck it up.
Wait until you are 18. Then, if you still need your parents' approval you are not ready for the service anyway.
set them down and explain to them the reasons why you want to go your parents will be resistant no matter what so just try to tell them in the calmest way possible
omg thats not ok army is evil but if u like it try everything u got to get in
ps pokemon rules
Try and get to one in person.
Once you turn 18, it's no longer your parent's decision.
wait until you are 18 and do it. You will be an adult and wont need their approval.
Have a serious talk with them and ask them why they dont want you to join
WELL IF U ARE 18....SCREW YO PARENTS...ITS YO LIFE...YO RULES.LOL.......I SAY U GO AND DO IT MANE....AND ENJOY
Hello Vetkid.
As you have chosen that name it means to me that your father was in the Army.
And, he doesn't want you to join.
But, it is NOT his decision.
When you are 18 you don't need any parent's approval to join the military.
You need to do this now:
#1. Keep your mouth shut about anything military with them.
#2. Use the Internet to obtain preliminary information while you are in high school. You didn't say what grade you are in currently, so I don't know how close to being 18 years old you are.
#3. Go to usmilitary.about.com and then click on the tab that says ENLISTMENT and then scroll down to Army Jobs and Air Force Jobs and Marine Jobs and Navy Jobs and read all about them.
#4. Don't request written pamphlets from recruiters to come to the house or phone you. You can, if you have your driver's license by now, go visit them and talk with them in the office and tell them not to mail stuff or call on the phone.
#5. Go to the public library and study the practice for the ASVAB tests (Armed Service Vocational Aptitude Battery exams) which you will have to take before you can enlist.
#6. Show your parents that you are getting great grades (nothing lower than a ';C';) in your school subjects. All good grades will help you in whichever military service you join.
THEN, when you become 18 years old and actually graduate high school you can do what you wish regardless of your parent's wishes.
Keep a low military profile at this point. You are wearing your parents out and they are becoming ';nuts'; over your talk about the Army. Give them a break.
You have plenty of time ahead to grow and learn before you have to make that first ADULT decision.
Best wishes,
Larry Smith
SMSgt, USAF (Ret.)
First SergeantHow do i get my parents approval of joining the army?
All the information is on line and you seem to have computer access. You can chat with recruiters on the Army websites. If you want to go to college, you should look into army rotc. It's the best deal the army has going to pay for college. You can even participate in rotc while attending a community college if it has cross town arrangements with a university with an rotc program. Also consider the army's ecp(early commissioning program) at the military jc's. Commission as a 2nd lieutenant in 2 years and most of the cost of schooling would be paid for by an army rotc scholarship if a cadet qualifies. After graduating the jc and commissioning the 2nd Lieutenant goes directly to a 4 year university with an rotc program and earns a bachelors degree, when he graduates he goes on active duty as a 1st lieutenant earning about 18,000/year more than a freshly commissioned 2nd Lieutenant. Your parents might be more amenable to your going to college and joining rotc and then commissioning as an officer. Feel free to e mail me if you need any more info on what I wrote above.
Like others have told you, once your 18, it's no longer their call. A little advice about dealing with recruiters. GET ANY AND ALL GUARANTEES FOR SCHOOLS OR SPECIALTIES IN WRITING. Yeah, they seem like nice guys and most of them are but don't listen to any garbage about how you'll be able to specialize latter because chances are you'll be filling an infantry billet unless your already bringing desirable language or technical skills to the table. Cut your parents some slack also because they love you and are frightened of losing you. If it's what you want they'll have to accept it but be a standup guy from the beginning and let them know you understand their fears but need to lead your own life if your ever going to be a real adult. In advance, thanks for your service and good luck.
Yea not much else anyone can tell ya. The others pretty much said it. Once your 18, parents have no say. As for convincing, if you cant, you cant, its just that simple. Some parents refuse to think about that possibility. Once your 18 tho they cant stop you. .
If you are eighteen years of age you can do what ever the bloody hell you want. You will legally be an adult and therefore do not need the consent of your parents. As far as getting literature, use a friends address, with their permission of course.
Some suggestions:
- think it over at least 100 times
- go visit infowars dot com and similar websites. Read 100 articles.
- wait until you're 18.
And then hopefully you make an educated decision. Being a soldier isn't as fun as playing Halo or Counter-Strike. Trust me.
they just dont want the thought of you going out to die. it's not something you can help them understand.
you're risking your life for money and there's more things to life than money
The posts about 18 yrs old are good.
Also, most schools have army recruiters, you may have one at your school! :D
Go to the recruiter directly, or go to www.goarmy.com
Once you are 18, they cannot stop you from enlisting.
Until then, you'll just have to suck it up.
Wait until you are 18. Then, if you still need your parents' approval you are not ready for the service anyway.
set them down and explain to them the reasons why you want to go your parents will be resistant no matter what so just try to tell them in the calmest way possible
omg thats not ok army is evil but if u like it try everything u got to get in
ps pokemon rules
Try and get to one in person.
Once you turn 18, it's no longer your parent's decision.
wait until you are 18 and do it. You will be an adult and wont need their approval.
Have a serious talk with them and ask them why they dont want you to join
WELL IF U ARE 18....SCREW YO PARENTS...ITS YO LIFE...YO RULES.LOL.......I SAY U GO AND DO IT MANE....AND ENJOY
How can I talk my parents into letting me get my nose pierced?
I'm 15 and really want to get my nose pierced this summer. All I want is a tiny stud that just looks like a little sparkle. I think it would be so cute, but my parents don't seem to agree. Any ideas??How can I talk my parents into letting me get my nose pierced?
Hey, first and formost, keep in mind that what your parents say, goes. You can't force them. However, you can....persuade them. Here are a few tips:
When I wanted my ears pierced, my mom made me write an essay about why I wanted them pierced and such. Try it. Just write a quicky essay or poem or something about getting your nose pierced. It will show you're serious about it, and that you're willing to do a school-like project without being forced to.
Is there anything you can improve in your lifestyle? Your room, perhaps? Or do you have certain chores that you neglect or ignore? Try to show responsability, and convince them that you're responsible enough to get your nose pierced.
Do helpful things around the house without being asked.
Try not to argue alot.
And finally, if they say no, accept it without whining and complaining. This will either a) Show them you're not immature, and they will change their minds, or b) See how mature you are, and the next time you ask for something, they'll consider it more seriously.
That's all I can give you. Good luck!How can I talk my parents into letting me get my nose pierced?
if you're scared to ask your parents then just go ahead and get one.. they might get mad when they see u have a nose pierced but there's nothing they can do. what they gonna do kick u out?lol.. thats what i did b4
Tell them you'll eat your vegetables and do your homework for ever and ever.
(I am sooo not being sarcastic, i got my nose pierced at 14, and hat's how i got them to let me.)
hate to say it, but wait till you're 18 and can do it on your own legally (that's how it is in Utard anyway-dunno about other states) that's what i had to do! (i've had mine for a year now and i love it!) when you're a minor and you live with your parents, you sometimes have to listen to their rules....you do, after all, live in their house where they pay for food, shelter, etc etc.
parents may or may not know EXACTLY what's best for their kid, but they know more than we give 'em credit for.
#1-nose piercing hurts like HELL. out of the 9 i have, it hurt the worst BY FAR.
#2-i cant be absolutely certain, but in my search for jobs since i've graduated college, i'm pretty sure i've actually been turned down because of it. it sucks, but it's a choice i made and i'm not taking it out for a job. *shrug*
and hey, it is only my own opinion.
best of luck!
It is customary for some East Indian women to get their nose pierced to let men know they are not available. You can try and use that angle. I have a tiny CZ stud and honestly, most people do not even notice it, but I love it and that is what matters. You can also tell your parents it is something that means something important to you and you are not doing it to look crazy. Then tell them that if after you have it done they absolutely despise it, you will remove it. Hope it works for you.
option 1.
Sneek out the house when there not looking. Quickly get it down at a place nearby and cover your nose every time you see your parents. -Say you have a cold :)
option 2.
nag nag and nag. Say all your friends have it. Say boys like it. say it's just not fair and that you feel you are not being treated well. Tell them that if they treat you more like an adult -giving more responsibilities than you will become more like an adult.
option 3.
Tell your mother that she TOO would look great with a nose piercing. Look for photos on internet of beautiful woman with nose piercings. Tell your mother that they look a little bit like her - but with the addition of a nose piercing.
option 4.
Tell your parents that others (your friends) are also getting their bellybutton, mouth, tongue, and eyelids pierced. The idea here is to introduce more extreme possibilities. Tell them that you are also very keen on getting this done. Then give up on the idea and say ';well, I guess I would also be satisfied with just a nose piercing';
option 5.
Use one of those fake piercing things -so you don't need a hole in your nose
don't. noserings are not at all attractive. plus it could get infected or something. if your parents said no, then just respect their authority please!
Hey, first and formost, keep in mind that what your parents say, goes. You can't force them. However, you can....persuade them. Here are a few tips:
When I wanted my ears pierced, my mom made me write an essay about why I wanted them pierced and such. Try it. Just write a quicky essay or poem or something about getting your nose pierced. It will show you're serious about it, and that you're willing to do a school-like project without being forced to.
Is there anything you can improve in your lifestyle? Your room, perhaps? Or do you have certain chores that you neglect or ignore? Try to show responsability, and convince them that you're responsible enough to get your nose pierced.
Do helpful things around the house without being asked.
Try not to argue alot.
And finally, if they say no, accept it without whining and complaining. This will either a) Show them you're not immature, and they will change their minds, or b) See how mature you are, and the next time you ask for something, they'll consider it more seriously.
That's all I can give you. Good luck!How can I talk my parents into letting me get my nose pierced?
if you're scared to ask your parents then just go ahead and get one.. they might get mad when they see u have a nose pierced but there's nothing they can do. what they gonna do kick u out?lol.. thats what i did b4
Tell them you'll eat your vegetables and do your homework for ever and ever.
(I am sooo not being sarcastic, i got my nose pierced at 14, and hat's how i got them to let me.)
hate to say it, but wait till you're 18 and can do it on your own legally (that's how it is in Utard anyway-dunno about other states) that's what i had to do! (i've had mine for a year now and i love it!) when you're a minor and you live with your parents, you sometimes have to listen to their rules....you do, after all, live in their house where they pay for food, shelter, etc etc.
parents may or may not know EXACTLY what's best for their kid, but they know more than we give 'em credit for.
#1-nose piercing hurts like HELL. out of the 9 i have, it hurt the worst BY FAR.
#2-i cant be absolutely certain, but in my search for jobs since i've graduated college, i'm pretty sure i've actually been turned down because of it. it sucks, but it's a choice i made and i'm not taking it out for a job. *shrug*
and hey, it is only my own opinion.
best of luck!
It is customary for some East Indian women to get their nose pierced to let men know they are not available. You can try and use that angle. I have a tiny CZ stud and honestly, most people do not even notice it, but I love it and that is what matters. You can also tell your parents it is something that means something important to you and you are not doing it to look crazy. Then tell them that if after you have it done they absolutely despise it, you will remove it. Hope it works for you.
option 1.
Sneek out the house when there not looking. Quickly get it down at a place nearby and cover your nose every time you see your parents. -Say you have a cold :)
option 2.
nag nag and nag. Say all your friends have it. Say boys like it. say it's just not fair and that you feel you are not being treated well. Tell them that if they treat you more like an adult -giving more responsibilities than you will become more like an adult.
option 3.
Tell your mother that she TOO would look great with a nose piercing. Look for photos on internet of beautiful woman with nose piercings. Tell your mother that they look a little bit like her - but with the addition of a nose piercing.
option 4.
Tell your parents that others (your friends) are also getting their bellybutton, mouth, tongue, and eyelids pierced. The idea here is to introduce more extreme possibilities. Tell them that you are also very keen on getting this done. Then give up on the idea and say ';well, I guess I would also be satisfied with just a nose piercing';
option 5.
Use one of those fake piercing things -so you don't need a hole in your nose
don't. noserings are not at all attractive. plus it could get infected or something. if your parents said no, then just respect their authority please!
How do I convince my Parents to get me a hamster?
My mom wont let me get a hamster because she thinks i dont NEED one but i really want one and i just don't know how to convince her??
Please Help Me!How do I convince my Parents to get me a hamster?
Well, maybe your mom is right. Do you think you could really take care of a hamster? Its not that easy. I have two myself and although I love them, they do stink. I have to clean the whole cage twice a week. Do some research about them than talk to your mom. Prove you could take care of one.How do I convince my Parents to get me a hamster?
If you have any other pets, then show that you are responsible with them. Keep them feed, cleaned and play with them often. If you don't have any pets then try and do some extra chores and stuff so you maybe can earn money on your own to pay and keep a hamster. Remember they take lots of care and most people do get bored with them after a little while.
I went through the same thing. I wonted to get a second hamster and my dad just kept saying NO, but I kept bagging and begging and FINALLY he said yes. I was SO exited. But a little while after I get Sammy my first ariginal hamster Emma died. I miss Emma SO much, she was the best hamster EVER!!!!! But anyway, just tell her you are responsible, and show her that too, like take care of your other pets if you have any, and if not then do A LOT of chores around the house with out her having to ask you. And just keep bringing it up, like I use to do to my dad, I use to make him laugh so much. Like when he said ';Are sink looks terrible'; I use to say ';Then lets replace it with a hamster';. He use to laugh because I would bring it up on the totally oppisite subjects. I hope I helped, GoOd LuCk
well first you have to ask yourself are u ready for this responablitily. can you handle taking care of it. when i wanted one i paid for it myself. i just begged. lol. and i told them that i could be responsable taking care of it and proved it to them by my previous pets that i took good care of.
First Good luck and Hopefully Your moms nothing like my Dad... Because when my Dad Says No He basically never EVER Changes that answer.
Well Try telling her All the Good things about having a Hamster.
i would say prove to your parents that you are really responsible like do an xtra chore or some laundry!!!!!!!!! it would help your parents and at the same time win you aome brownie points!
Ask for a chinchilla then go smaller.
Please Help Me!How do I convince my Parents to get me a hamster?
Well, maybe your mom is right. Do you think you could really take care of a hamster? Its not that easy. I have two myself and although I love them, they do stink. I have to clean the whole cage twice a week. Do some research about them than talk to your mom. Prove you could take care of one.How do I convince my Parents to get me a hamster?
If you have any other pets, then show that you are responsible with them. Keep them feed, cleaned and play with them often. If you don't have any pets then try and do some extra chores and stuff so you maybe can earn money on your own to pay and keep a hamster. Remember they take lots of care and most people do get bored with them after a little while.
I went through the same thing. I wonted to get a second hamster and my dad just kept saying NO, but I kept bagging and begging and FINALLY he said yes. I was SO exited. But a little while after I get Sammy my first ariginal hamster Emma died. I miss Emma SO much, she was the best hamster EVER!!!!! But anyway, just tell her you are responsible, and show her that too, like take care of your other pets if you have any, and if not then do A LOT of chores around the house with out her having to ask you. And just keep bringing it up, like I use to do to my dad, I use to make him laugh so much. Like when he said ';Are sink looks terrible'; I use to say ';Then lets replace it with a hamster';. He use to laugh because I would bring it up on the totally oppisite subjects. I hope I helped, GoOd LuCk
well first you have to ask yourself are u ready for this responablitily. can you handle taking care of it. when i wanted one i paid for it myself. i just begged. lol. and i told them that i could be responsable taking care of it and proved it to them by my previous pets that i took good care of.
First Good luck and Hopefully Your moms nothing like my Dad... Because when my Dad Says No He basically never EVER Changes that answer.
Well Try telling her All the Good things about having a Hamster.
i would say prove to your parents that you are really responsible like do an xtra chore or some laundry!!!!!!!!! it would help your parents and at the same time win you aome brownie points!
Ask for a chinchilla then go smaller.
Parenting Classes for Two Daddies?
Hello! Can anyone recommend a pre-natal, parenting class in the Los Angeles area for two future daddies? My partner and I are expecting our first child in April 2010 and want to be ready for this joyous event.Parenting Classes for Two Daddies?
That is awesome news, Congrats!!! The easiest way is to sign up for classes at the hospital the baby will be born at. My hospital took us on a tour and explained the security system etc it was great! We went back for the Labor Class as well. Check with your insurance, as they may reimburse you the cost of the class, mine did.Parenting Classes for Two Daddies?
I think the hospital is the best bet and/or baby's doctor will have all sorts of information regarding parenting classes. I found my area offered a group of local mommies/daddies that get together and discuss, learn and support each other. You could find this information at your neighborhood library or town forum. As a mommy of 3 may I recommend that you buy the book ';Happiest Baby on the Block'; . It will help you understand babies and learn how to comfort them. I found it at Babies R Us and don't know how I managed my first born without the knowledge it provided. Best of luck to you and yours.
most hospitals offer a daddy class. This includes information about changing diapers, caring for newborns, but also about taking care of the woman who just gave birth. Sounds like you don't need that part. After a baby is born, they show the parents how to bath, clean the eyes, the belly bottom, and any other information you could need or what. They teach you to count diapers to know baby is getting enough to eat. If you know the woman who is having this baby for you, I assume you could learn a lot of this in the hospital where the baby will be born. Also, her doctors office may offer classes about different things. I know mine did. Call the hospital in your area and see what they can offer you!!wholesale cosmetics
That is awesome news, Congrats!!! The easiest way is to sign up for classes at the hospital the baby will be born at. My hospital took us on a tour and explained the security system etc it was great! We went back for the Labor Class as well. Check with your insurance, as they may reimburse you the cost of the class, mine did.Parenting Classes for Two Daddies?
I think the hospital is the best bet and/or baby's doctor will have all sorts of information regarding parenting classes. I found my area offered a group of local mommies/daddies that get together and discuss, learn and support each other. You could find this information at your neighborhood library or town forum. As a mommy of 3 may I recommend that you buy the book ';Happiest Baby on the Block'; . It will help you understand babies and learn how to comfort them. I found it at Babies R Us and don't know how I managed my first born without the knowledge it provided. Best of luck to you and yours.
most hospitals offer a daddy class. This includes information about changing diapers, caring for newborns, but also about taking care of the woman who just gave birth. Sounds like you don't need that part. After a baby is born, they show the parents how to bath, clean the eyes, the belly bottom, and any other information you could need or what. They teach you to count diapers to know baby is getting enough to eat. If you know the woman who is having this baby for you, I assume you could learn a lot of this in the hospital where the baby will be born. Also, her doctors office may offer classes about different things. I know mine did. Call the hospital in your area and see what they can offer you!!
How can i get my parents to agree to me getting a milksnake?
I'm nearly 19 and live at home while im at uni. I've been looking at getting a reptile for some time and have researched quite a few different lizards and snakes. I finally decided on a milksnake but i'm told that the lady next door doesnt like snakes. Is there anything i n do to convince my mum that having a snake would not really affect next door?How can i get my parents to agree to me getting a milksnake?
how would the lady next door come in contact with your snake? If the set up is in your room she isn't going to see or hear the snake. My Grandmother who is my land lady doesn't like my newts or hermit crabs but as long as they stay in their tanks she doesn't care too much. ( She doesn't know the hermit crabs sometimes come out.)
Your neighbour doesn't even need to know that you have a snake. If you mother is friends with her and afraid she will not visit simply don't tell her about it. It really isn't any of her business any way.
make sure you have done your research so you can have a good set up and healthy animal. As a student will you be able to take care of this animal though out it's life? Make sure your plans include the snake. If you're going to get it then next year decide to get an apartment where you can't keep your snake and have to give it away there isn't much point in getting one.How can i get my parents to agree to me getting a milksnake?
you could always move out and then do whatever you want they cant not let you have a milksnake if you dont live with them
Do your research on the snake, and present her with information. Also tell her about safetly precautions you'll take so it doesn't get loose.
You could tell your parents that it handles of a harmless and quite tamed snake, never getting so big to be worried about, an eventual great mice destroyer and definately far to be problematic to be feeded and cared of.
If all this does not work, drop your parents and get a place all by yourself and start breed milksnakes at your preference!
THE ONLY WAY ID LET MY SON EVER HAVE A SNAKE IS IF HE GOT A CAGE THAT HAS A LOCKING LID......... AND ALSO TO KNOW HE WOULD TAKE CARE OF BUT YOU SAID U WERE IN YOUR MOMS HOUSE AND U GO TO SCHOOL WHO WOULD CARE 4 WHIL AWAY?????
i have a pueblan milk snake, its not the first snake I've kept but I'd have to say its by far the most placid and timid snake I've owned.
As for neighbors none of mine are remotely aware that i have one. once they are properly looked after there should be no problems with it, but you would need to handle them often or they become very timid.
It is possible that you mum is afraid of them and is just looking for an excuse, lots of people have a very irrational fear of them, and if its kept in your bedroom I'd be worried if your neighbor was going in there.
I personally feel snakes are the best pets you can own, but lots of people, even some of my best friends will leave my apartment if I take mine out of the tank.
How would the people next door even know that you have a pet snake unless you tell them or unless you are planning to let it slither all over the neighbourhood?
Maybe your Mum doesn't like snakes and she is using it as an excuse?
how would the lady next door come in contact with your snake? If the set up is in your room she isn't going to see or hear the snake. My Grandmother who is my land lady doesn't like my newts or hermit crabs but as long as they stay in their tanks she doesn't care too much. ( She doesn't know the hermit crabs sometimes come out.)
Your neighbour doesn't even need to know that you have a snake. If you mother is friends with her and afraid she will not visit simply don't tell her about it. It really isn't any of her business any way.
make sure you have done your research so you can have a good set up and healthy animal. As a student will you be able to take care of this animal though out it's life? Make sure your plans include the snake. If you're going to get it then next year decide to get an apartment where you can't keep your snake and have to give it away there isn't much point in getting one.How can i get my parents to agree to me getting a milksnake?
you could always move out and then do whatever you want they cant not let you have a milksnake if you dont live with them
Do your research on the snake, and present her with information. Also tell her about safetly precautions you'll take so it doesn't get loose.
You could tell your parents that it handles of a harmless and quite tamed snake, never getting so big to be worried about, an eventual great mice destroyer and definately far to be problematic to be feeded and cared of.
If all this does not work, drop your parents and get a place all by yourself and start breed milksnakes at your preference!
THE ONLY WAY ID LET MY SON EVER HAVE A SNAKE IS IF HE GOT A CAGE THAT HAS A LOCKING LID......... AND ALSO TO KNOW HE WOULD TAKE CARE OF BUT YOU SAID U WERE IN YOUR MOMS HOUSE AND U GO TO SCHOOL WHO WOULD CARE 4 WHIL AWAY?????
i have a pueblan milk snake, its not the first snake I've kept but I'd have to say its by far the most placid and timid snake I've owned.
As for neighbors none of mine are remotely aware that i have one. once they are properly looked after there should be no problems with it, but you would need to handle them often or they become very timid.
It is possible that you mum is afraid of them and is just looking for an excuse, lots of people have a very irrational fear of them, and if its kept in your bedroom I'd be worried if your neighbor was going in there.
I personally feel snakes are the best pets you can own, but lots of people, even some of my best friends will leave my apartment if I take mine out of the tank.
How would the people next door even know that you have a pet snake unless you tell them or unless you are planning to let it slither all over the neighbourhood?
Maybe your Mum doesn't like snakes and she is using it as an excuse?
How should I tell my parents about the second piercing I got in my ears yesterday?
I got it done in a jewellers when I went shopping yesterday. My mum said I would be allowed one but my dad is against piercings. I haven't told my parents yet but I want to. What do you reckon I should say to them to spill the beans?How should I tell my parents about the second piercing I got in my ears yesterday?
show your mum first :)How should I tell my parents about the second piercing I got in my ears yesterday?
How old are you? If you're an adult (legally)...then I would just tell tell them up front that you wanted another piercing, you respect their opinion, but you are, however an adult and made the decision to get one. You can always take it out, where ever it might be. Maybe explain to them that you didn't do it to spite them, it's just part of who you are. At least you didn't go get a tattoo all over yourself if they were opposed to that. They can be but are a little harder (and expensive) to remove in full. When I was 18, I wanted a tattoo and I also wanted my tongue pierced. I don't think my parents thought either were flattering. I asked them which one, if I were going to get one would they like more...surprising the tattoo. So I got one, and they both were OK with it. My conservative step-mom even thinks it's cute. They'll accept it and move on.
Go up to them and show them. Say it was a mistake, but since you had to pay for it yourself, could you keep it?
If they tell you to take it out don't scream and stomp off. Just say ok. And do it. If you want them that bad, wear them at school, at home when they're not around, and any other time that your not with them. But don't forget they're in.
Just go up to your mum, show her your ear and say ';what do you think then?'; She probably will take a few minutes to even notice what you're showing her!
Good luck with that, I still have to tell my parents about the nipple piercings I got....9 months ago :O
Just wear the ear rings, and then wait for their reply, because they will notice anyway. Say you didnt think nothing was wrong with it, because you already had one piercing and that is the style and all your friends have double piercings.
just show them your ears!! then hand them cream cakes :-)
show your mum first :)How should I tell my parents about the second piercing I got in my ears yesterday?
How old are you? If you're an adult (legally)...then I would just tell tell them up front that you wanted another piercing, you respect their opinion, but you are, however an adult and made the decision to get one. You can always take it out, where ever it might be. Maybe explain to them that you didn't do it to spite them, it's just part of who you are. At least you didn't go get a tattoo all over yourself if they were opposed to that. They can be but are a little harder (and expensive) to remove in full. When I was 18, I wanted a tattoo and I also wanted my tongue pierced. I don't think my parents thought either were flattering. I asked them which one, if I were going to get one would they like more...surprising the tattoo. So I got one, and they both were OK with it. My conservative step-mom even thinks it's cute. They'll accept it and move on.
Go up to them and show them. Say it was a mistake, but since you had to pay for it yourself, could you keep it?
If they tell you to take it out don't scream and stomp off. Just say ok. And do it. If you want them that bad, wear them at school, at home when they're not around, and any other time that your not with them. But don't forget they're in.
Just go up to your mum, show her your ear and say ';what do you think then?'; She probably will take a few minutes to even notice what you're showing her!
Good luck with that, I still have to tell my parents about the nipple piercings I got....9 months ago :O
Just wear the ear rings, and then wait for their reply, because they will notice anyway. Say you didnt think nothing was wrong with it, because you already had one piercing and that is the style and all your friends have double piercings.
just show them your ears!! then hand them cream cakes :-)
How do I get my parents to pay less attention to me, they are very clingy and overprotective?
I hate saying mean things about my parents but I need space and to do my own thing. It's hard for us to communicate because we don't really speak each other's native language very well. I also don't think it's fair for them to completely leave their parents in another country and then to expect me to see them every week. I live on my own for a reason.How do I get my parents to pay less attention to me, they are very clingy and overprotective?
Wow ,I just dont know really what to say .I am also a parent and I tend to be clingy and overprotective . Somethings you have to over look but then somethings they have to over look as well . Your going to have to sit them down and just explain to them that you are being smothered . It may help may not .IT took me alot to not smother my children .Children cannot be replaced .But at least they care enough about you to be up your *** though ......lol . Sorry that your going through this .How do I get my parents to pay less attention to me, they are very clingy and overprotective?
Your gonna have to be firm. Your gonna have to be ready to accept your parents being upset with you. Or live like this for the rest of your life. Put down your foot and dont let them in on every detail of your life. If you say your too busy to do soemthing then they should nt be able to go down the line of your schedule and say ';no...your free, you have time';. Get strong, stay strong. This wont go away till you make them learn...
you are selfish, thank your lucky stars that you have parents and that they care about you, you can't take a week-end each week to see them, something is wrong with you.
Wow ,I just dont know really what to say .I am also a parent and I tend to be clingy and overprotective . Somethings you have to over look but then somethings they have to over look as well . Your going to have to sit them down and just explain to them that you are being smothered . It may help may not .IT took me alot to not smother my children .Children cannot be replaced .But at least they care enough about you to be up your *** though ......lol . Sorry that your going through this .How do I get my parents to pay less attention to me, they are very clingy and overprotective?
Your gonna have to be firm. Your gonna have to be ready to accept your parents being upset with you. Or live like this for the rest of your life. Put down your foot and dont let them in on every detail of your life. If you say your too busy to do soemthing then they should nt be able to go down the line of your schedule and say ';no...your free, you have time';. Get strong, stay strong. This wont go away till you make them learn...
you are selfish, thank your lucky stars that you have parents and that they care about you, you can't take a week-end each week to see them, something is wrong with you.
How do I tell my parents something that will make them incredibly disappointed in me?
I've been practicing my tennis all year so I can make the school team this year. My parents paid a lot for private lessons and equipment and even clothes and stuff, and I've honestly tried my hardest and given it my all. However, we're about to make cuts and I'm almost positive I'm going to get cut. I simply play very poorly under pressure and haven't won enough games to stay on the team. How can I break it to my parents after they've done so much?How do I tell my parents something that will make them incredibly disappointed in me?
They've done their best to help you out and you've given it your best shot. They might be disappointed but you have to live your own life. Parents can only give their children the opportunities and hope that they help, so maybe if you tell them that you really appreciate everything they've done but you're just not suited to competition playing. Maybe you could convince them to come out and have a friendly game with you so that they can see all their hard work hasn't been wasted as you still sound like you do enjoy it. I can think of far more disappointing things to hear from a child than that so I hope you manage to tell them easily. Good luck.How do I tell my parents something that will make them incredibly disappointed in me?
You might be surprised. When you tell them, let them know that you recognize and appreciate all they have done to support you. Tell them honestly why you believe you did not make the team. Tell them, if you intend to try next year, what you will do to improve.
Also, examine your own thoughts. If winning is so important that you feel anxiety and ';play poorly under pressure';, are you learning the most important lessons? Learning any skill is partly about winning. It is also about understanding the concept of practice, of learning to analyze what went wrong when you do not perform well, about doing your personal best and accepting that as a win, whatever the scoreboard says. It is about learning how to win and how to lose. So try to look at other types of lessons you may be learning. Tell your parents about them too. They will appreciate them more than ANY won-lost record.
You sound very dedicated and grateful for what your parents have done for. Good for you, that's something you don't see as often as you should these days.
If your parents have a similar level of respect for you that you show for them, then just being honest with them would be the best approach.
My only concern would be if they are trying to live out their dreams through you (maybe they dream at night of you winning wimbleton and paying for their retirement?). If not, be confident, your parents will stick with you NO MATTER WHAT.
Wait until you are actually cut. In the greater scheme of things this is not bad. I had to tell my dad I was pregnant just before leaving for college, when he was paying my tuition. Worst day of my life.
Just tell them you are sorry and you did your best.
If you don't make the school team, so what? There are probably amateur leagues in your town. Play in one of those, or just play for fun! Try out for the team again next year.
Tell them just like you told us...make it clear that there are others on the team who are better than you, and you gave it your all! Not your fault if the school has to make cuts- but let them hear it from you first.
Tell them you have a girl friend....
Show your dad a picture of a girl.. said girl is a ******* babe. He will say NICE GET DUDE.
Tell your mom shes incredably relgious and doesnt want sex.
GOOD GET SON!11
Well if they cant see that you have given everything you got.. Then shame on them.. Parents these days push and push there kids to be the greats in everything.. But one thing they need to understand that always winning or being number 1, is not always going to happen.. We parents need to love our kids for who they are not what they can or can not do.. From a parent to you, who cares if you were cut you gave it your best.. That's all that matters... Good luck Kiddo
They've done their best to help you out and you've given it your best shot. They might be disappointed but you have to live your own life. Parents can only give their children the opportunities and hope that they help, so maybe if you tell them that you really appreciate everything they've done but you're just not suited to competition playing. Maybe you could convince them to come out and have a friendly game with you so that they can see all their hard work hasn't been wasted as you still sound like you do enjoy it. I can think of far more disappointing things to hear from a child than that so I hope you manage to tell them easily. Good luck.How do I tell my parents something that will make them incredibly disappointed in me?
You might be surprised. When you tell them, let them know that you recognize and appreciate all they have done to support you. Tell them honestly why you believe you did not make the team. Tell them, if you intend to try next year, what you will do to improve.
Also, examine your own thoughts. If winning is so important that you feel anxiety and ';play poorly under pressure';, are you learning the most important lessons? Learning any skill is partly about winning. It is also about understanding the concept of practice, of learning to analyze what went wrong when you do not perform well, about doing your personal best and accepting that as a win, whatever the scoreboard says. It is about learning how to win and how to lose. So try to look at other types of lessons you may be learning. Tell your parents about them too. They will appreciate them more than ANY won-lost record.
You sound very dedicated and grateful for what your parents have done for. Good for you, that's something you don't see as often as you should these days.
If your parents have a similar level of respect for you that you show for them, then just being honest with them would be the best approach.
My only concern would be if they are trying to live out their dreams through you (maybe they dream at night of you winning wimbleton and paying for their retirement?). If not, be confident, your parents will stick with you NO MATTER WHAT.
Wait until you are actually cut. In the greater scheme of things this is not bad. I had to tell my dad I was pregnant just before leaving for college, when he was paying my tuition. Worst day of my life.
Just tell them you are sorry and you did your best.
If you don't make the school team, so what? There are probably amateur leagues in your town. Play in one of those, or just play for fun! Try out for the team again next year.
Tell them just like you told us...make it clear that there are others on the team who are better than you, and you gave it your all! Not your fault if the school has to make cuts- but let them hear it from you first.
Tell them you have a girl friend....
Show your dad a picture of a girl.. said girl is a ******* babe. He will say NICE GET DUDE.
Tell your mom shes incredably relgious and doesnt want sex.
GOOD GET SON!11
Well if they cant see that you have given everything you got.. Then shame on them.. Parents these days push and push there kids to be the greats in everything.. But one thing they need to understand that always winning or being number 1, is not always going to happen.. We parents need to love our kids for who they are not what they can or can not do.. From a parent to you, who cares if you were cut you gave it your best.. That's all that matters... Good luck Kiddo
How do i get my parents approval of joining the army?
I wish to join the army after high school to help pay for college and pursue my career choice. But my parents refuse to talk about it any time it comes up. Every time I request army info in the mail they hide it or throw it away and every time recruiters call they say im not interested. What do I do?How do i get my parents approval of joining the army?
Hello Vetkid.
As you have chosen that name it means to me that your father was in the Army.
And, he doesn't want you to join.
But, it is NOT his decision.
When you are 18 you don't need any parent's approval to join the military.
You need to do this now:
#1. Keep your mouth shut about anything military with them.
#2. Use the Internet to obtain preliminary information while you are in high school. You didn't say what grade you are in currently, so I don't know how close to being 18 years old you are.
#3. Go to usmilitary.about.com and then click on the tab that says ENLISTMENT and then scroll down to Army Jobs and Air Force Jobs and Marine Jobs and Navy Jobs and read all about them.
#4. Don't request written pamphlets from recruiters to come to the house or phone you. You can, if you have your driver's license by now, go visit them and talk with them in the office and tell them not to mail stuff or call on the phone.
#5. Go to the public library and study the practice for the ASVAB tests (Armed Service Vocational Aptitude Battery exams) which you will have to take before you can enlist.
#6. Show your parents that you are getting great grades (nothing lower than a ';C';) in your school subjects. All good grades will help you in whichever military service you join.
THEN, when you become 18 years old and actually graduate high school you can do what you wish regardless of your parent's wishes.
Keep a low military profile at this point. You are wearing your parents out and they are becoming ';nuts'; over your talk about the Army. Give them a break.
You have plenty of time ahead to grow and learn before you have to make that first ADULT decision.
Best wishes,
Larry Smith
SMSgt, USAF (Ret.)
First SergeantHow do i get my parents approval of joining the army?
All the information is on line and you seem to have computer access. You can chat with recruiters on the Army websites. If you want to go to college, you should look into army rotc. It's the best deal the army has going to pay for college. You can even participate in rotc while attending a community college if it has cross town arrangements with a university with an rotc program. Also consider the army's ecp(early commissioning program) at the military jc's. Commission as a 2nd lieutenant in 2 years and most of the cost of schooling would be paid for by an army rotc scholarship if a cadet qualifies. After graduating the jc and commissioning the 2nd Lieutenant goes directly to a 4 year university with an rotc program and earns a bachelors degree, when he graduates he goes on active duty as a 1st lieutenant earning about 18,000/year more than a freshly commissioned 2nd Lieutenant. Your parents might be more amenable to your going to college and joining rotc and then commissioning as an officer. Feel free to e mail me if you need any more info on what I wrote above.
Like others have told you, once your 18, it's no longer their call. A little advice about dealing with recruiters. GET ANY AND ALL GUARANTEES FOR SCHOOLS OR SPECIALTIES IN WRITING. Yeah, they seem like nice guys and most of them are but don't listen to any garbage about how you'll be able to specialize latter because chances are you'll be filling an infantry billet unless your already bringing desirable language or technical skills to the table. Cut your parents some slack also because they love you and are frightened of losing you. If it's what you want they'll have to accept it but be a standup guy from the beginning and let them know you understand their fears but need to lead your own life if your ever going to be a real adult. In advance, thanks for your service and good luck.
Yea not much else anyone can tell ya. The others pretty much said it. Once your 18, parents have no say. As for convincing, if you cant, you cant, its just that simple. Some parents refuse to think about that possibility. Once your 18 tho they cant stop you. .
If you are eighteen years of age you can do what ever the bloody hell you want. You will legally be an adult and therefore do not need the consent of your parents. As far as getting literature, use a friends address, with their permission of course.
Some suggestions:
- think it over at least 100 times
- go visit infowars dot com and similar websites. Read 100 articles.
- wait until you're 18.
And then hopefully you make an educated decision. Being a soldier isn't as fun as playing Halo or Counter-Strike. Trust me.
they just dont want the thought of you going out to die. it's not something you can help them understand.
you're risking your life for money and there's more things to life than money
The posts about 18 yrs old are good.
Also, most schools have army recruiters, you may have one at your school! :D
Go to the recruiter directly, or go to www.goarmy.com
Once you are 18, they cannot stop you from enlisting.
Until then, you'll just have to suck it up.
Wait until you are 18. Then, if you still need your parents' approval you are not ready for the service anyway.
set them down and explain to them the reasons why you want to go your parents will be resistant no matter what so just try to tell them in the calmest way possible
omg thats not ok army is evil but if u like it try everything u got to get in
ps pokemon rules
Try and get to one in person.
Once you turn 18, it's no longer your parent's decision.
wait until you are 18 and do it. You will be an adult and wont need their approval.
Have a serious talk with them and ask them why they dont want you to join
WELL IF U ARE 18....SCREW YO PARENTS...ITS YO LIFE...YO RULES.LOL.......I SAY U GO AND DO IT MANE....AND ENJOY
Hello Vetkid.
As you have chosen that name it means to me that your father was in the Army.
And, he doesn't want you to join.
But, it is NOT his decision.
When you are 18 you don't need any parent's approval to join the military.
You need to do this now:
#1. Keep your mouth shut about anything military with them.
#2. Use the Internet to obtain preliminary information while you are in high school. You didn't say what grade you are in currently, so I don't know how close to being 18 years old you are.
#3. Go to usmilitary.about.com and then click on the tab that says ENLISTMENT and then scroll down to Army Jobs and Air Force Jobs and Marine Jobs and Navy Jobs and read all about them.
#4. Don't request written pamphlets from recruiters to come to the house or phone you. You can, if you have your driver's license by now, go visit them and talk with them in the office and tell them not to mail stuff or call on the phone.
#5. Go to the public library and study the practice for the ASVAB tests (Armed Service Vocational Aptitude Battery exams) which you will have to take before you can enlist.
#6. Show your parents that you are getting great grades (nothing lower than a ';C';) in your school subjects. All good grades will help you in whichever military service you join.
THEN, when you become 18 years old and actually graduate high school you can do what you wish regardless of your parent's wishes.
Keep a low military profile at this point. You are wearing your parents out and they are becoming ';nuts'; over your talk about the Army. Give them a break.
You have plenty of time ahead to grow and learn before you have to make that first ADULT decision.
Best wishes,
Larry Smith
SMSgt, USAF (Ret.)
First SergeantHow do i get my parents approval of joining the army?
All the information is on line and you seem to have computer access. You can chat with recruiters on the Army websites. If you want to go to college, you should look into army rotc. It's the best deal the army has going to pay for college. You can even participate in rotc while attending a community college if it has cross town arrangements with a university with an rotc program. Also consider the army's ecp(early commissioning program) at the military jc's. Commission as a 2nd lieutenant in 2 years and most of the cost of schooling would be paid for by an army rotc scholarship if a cadet qualifies. After graduating the jc and commissioning the 2nd Lieutenant goes directly to a 4 year university with an rotc program and earns a bachelors degree, when he graduates he goes on active duty as a 1st lieutenant earning about 18,000/year more than a freshly commissioned 2nd Lieutenant. Your parents might be more amenable to your going to college and joining rotc and then commissioning as an officer. Feel free to e mail me if you need any more info on what I wrote above.
Like others have told you, once your 18, it's no longer their call. A little advice about dealing with recruiters. GET ANY AND ALL GUARANTEES FOR SCHOOLS OR SPECIALTIES IN WRITING. Yeah, they seem like nice guys and most of them are but don't listen to any garbage about how you'll be able to specialize latter because chances are you'll be filling an infantry billet unless your already bringing desirable language or technical skills to the table. Cut your parents some slack also because they love you and are frightened of losing you. If it's what you want they'll have to accept it but be a standup guy from the beginning and let them know you understand their fears but need to lead your own life if your ever going to be a real adult. In advance, thanks for your service and good luck.
Yea not much else anyone can tell ya. The others pretty much said it. Once your 18, parents have no say. As for convincing, if you cant, you cant, its just that simple. Some parents refuse to think about that possibility. Once your 18 tho they cant stop you. .
If you are eighteen years of age you can do what ever the bloody hell you want. You will legally be an adult and therefore do not need the consent of your parents. As far as getting literature, use a friends address, with their permission of course.
Some suggestions:
- think it over at least 100 times
- go visit infowars dot com and similar websites. Read 100 articles.
- wait until you're 18.
And then hopefully you make an educated decision. Being a soldier isn't as fun as playing Halo or Counter-Strike. Trust me.
they just dont want the thought of you going out to die. it's not something you can help them understand.
you're risking your life for money and there's more things to life than money
The posts about 18 yrs old are good.
Also, most schools have army recruiters, you may have one at your school! :D
Go to the recruiter directly, or go to www.goarmy.com
Once you are 18, they cannot stop you from enlisting.
Until then, you'll just have to suck it up.
Wait until you are 18. Then, if you still need your parents' approval you are not ready for the service anyway.
set them down and explain to them the reasons why you want to go your parents will be resistant no matter what so just try to tell them in the calmest way possible
omg thats not ok army is evil but if u like it try everything u got to get in
ps pokemon rules
Try and get to one in person.
Once you turn 18, it's no longer your parent's decision.
wait until you are 18 and do it. You will be an adult and wont need their approval.
Have a serious talk with them and ask them why they dont want you to join
WELL IF U ARE 18....SCREW YO PARENTS...ITS YO LIFE...YO RULES.LOL.......I SAY U GO AND DO IT MANE....AND ENJOY
How can I talk my parents into letting me get my nose pierced?
I'm 15 and really want to get my nose pierced this summer. All I want is a tiny stud that just looks like a little sparkle. I think it would be so cute, but my parents don't seem to agree. Any ideas??How can I talk my parents into letting me get my nose pierced?
Hey, first and formost, keep in mind that what your parents say, goes. You can't force them. However, you can....persuade them. Here are a few tips:
When I wanted my ears pierced, my mom made me write an essay about why I wanted them pierced and such. Try it. Just write a quicky essay or poem or something about getting your nose pierced. It will show you're serious about it, and that you're willing to do a school-like project without being forced to.
Is there anything you can improve in your lifestyle? Your room, perhaps? Or do you have certain chores that you neglect or ignore? Try to show responsability, and convince them that you're responsible enough to get your nose pierced.
Do helpful things around the house without being asked.
Try not to argue alot.
And finally, if they say no, accept it without whining and complaining. This will either a) Show them you're not immature, and they will change their minds, or b) See how mature you are, and the next time you ask for something, they'll consider it more seriously.
That's all I can give you. Good luck!How can I talk my parents into letting me get my nose pierced?
if you're scared to ask your parents then just go ahead and get one.. they might get mad when they see u have a nose pierced but there's nothing they can do. what they gonna do kick u out?lol.. thats what i did b4
Tell them you'll eat your vegetables and do your homework for ever and ever.
(I am sooo not being sarcastic, i got my nose pierced at 14, and hat's how i got them to let me.)
hate to say it, but wait till you're 18 and can do it on your own legally (that's how it is in Utard anyway-dunno about other states) that's what i had to do! (i've had mine for a year now and i love it!) when you're a minor and you live with your parents, you sometimes have to listen to their rules....you do, after all, live in their house where they pay for food, shelter, etc etc.
parents may or may not know EXACTLY what's best for their kid, but they know more than we give 'em credit for.
#1-nose piercing hurts like HELL. out of the 9 i have, it hurt the worst BY FAR.
#2-i cant be absolutely certain, but in my search for jobs since i've graduated college, i'm pretty sure i've actually been turned down because of it. it sucks, but it's a choice i made and i'm not taking it out for a job. *shrug*
and hey, it is only my own opinion.
best of luck!
It is customary for some East Indian women to get their nose pierced to let men know they are not available. You can try and use that angle. I have a tiny CZ stud and honestly, most people do not even notice it, but I love it and that is what matters. You can also tell your parents it is something that means something important to you and you are not doing it to look crazy. Then tell them that if after you have it done they absolutely despise it, you will remove it. Hope it works for you.
option 1.
Sneek out the house when there not looking. Quickly get it down at a place nearby and cover your nose every time you see your parents. -Say you have a cold :)
option 2.
nag nag and nag. Say all your friends have it. Say boys like it. say it's just not fair and that you feel you are not being treated well. Tell them that if they treat you more like an adult -giving more responsibilities than you will become more like an adult.
option 3.
Tell your mother that she TOO would look great with a nose piercing. Look for photos on internet of beautiful woman with nose piercings. Tell your mother that they look a little bit like her - but with the addition of a nose piercing.
option 4.
Tell your parents that others (your friends) are also getting their bellybutton, mouth, tongue, and eyelids pierced. The idea here is to introduce more extreme possibilities. Tell them that you are also very keen on getting this done. Then give up on the idea and say ';well, I guess I would also be satisfied with just a nose piercing';
option 5.
Use one of those fake piercing things -so you don't need a hole in your nose
don't. noserings are not at all attractive. plus it could get infected or something. if your parents said no, then just respect their authority please!wholesale cosmetics
Hey, first and formost, keep in mind that what your parents say, goes. You can't force them. However, you can....persuade them. Here are a few tips:
When I wanted my ears pierced, my mom made me write an essay about why I wanted them pierced and such. Try it. Just write a quicky essay or poem or something about getting your nose pierced. It will show you're serious about it, and that you're willing to do a school-like project without being forced to.
Is there anything you can improve in your lifestyle? Your room, perhaps? Or do you have certain chores that you neglect or ignore? Try to show responsability, and convince them that you're responsible enough to get your nose pierced.
Do helpful things around the house without being asked.
Try not to argue alot.
And finally, if they say no, accept it without whining and complaining. This will either a) Show them you're not immature, and they will change their minds, or b) See how mature you are, and the next time you ask for something, they'll consider it more seriously.
That's all I can give you. Good luck!How can I talk my parents into letting me get my nose pierced?
if you're scared to ask your parents then just go ahead and get one.. they might get mad when they see u have a nose pierced but there's nothing they can do. what they gonna do kick u out?lol.. thats what i did b4
Tell them you'll eat your vegetables and do your homework for ever and ever.
(I am sooo not being sarcastic, i got my nose pierced at 14, and hat's how i got them to let me.)
hate to say it, but wait till you're 18 and can do it on your own legally (that's how it is in Utard anyway-dunno about other states) that's what i had to do! (i've had mine for a year now and i love it!) when you're a minor and you live with your parents, you sometimes have to listen to their rules....you do, after all, live in their house where they pay for food, shelter, etc etc.
parents may or may not know EXACTLY what's best for their kid, but they know more than we give 'em credit for.
#1-nose piercing hurts like HELL. out of the 9 i have, it hurt the worst BY FAR.
#2-i cant be absolutely certain, but in my search for jobs since i've graduated college, i'm pretty sure i've actually been turned down because of it. it sucks, but it's a choice i made and i'm not taking it out for a job. *shrug*
and hey, it is only my own opinion.
best of luck!
It is customary for some East Indian women to get their nose pierced to let men know they are not available. You can try and use that angle. I have a tiny CZ stud and honestly, most people do not even notice it, but I love it and that is what matters. You can also tell your parents it is something that means something important to you and you are not doing it to look crazy. Then tell them that if after you have it done they absolutely despise it, you will remove it. Hope it works for you.
option 1.
Sneek out the house when there not looking. Quickly get it down at a place nearby and cover your nose every time you see your parents. -Say you have a cold :)
option 2.
nag nag and nag. Say all your friends have it. Say boys like it. say it's just not fair and that you feel you are not being treated well. Tell them that if they treat you more like an adult -giving more responsibilities than you will become more like an adult.
option 3.
Tell your mother that she TOO would look great with a nose piercing. Look for photos on internet of beautiful woman with nose piercings. Tell your mother that they look a little bit like her - but with the addition of a nose piercing.
option 4.
Tell your parents that others (your friends) are also getting their bellybutton, mouth, tongue, and eyelids pierced. The idea here is to introduce more extreme possibilities. Tell them that you are also very keen on getting this done. Then give up on the idea and say ';well, I guess I would also be satisfied with just a nose piercing';
option 5.
Use one of those fake piercing things -so you don't need a hole in your nose
don't. noserings are not at all attractive. plus it could get infected or something. if your parents said no, then just respect their authority please!
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