How hard is it to change a parenting plan once it's been in place for several years?

My ex spends no quality time with our 10 year old son while he's there. He is more interested in going out fishing etc. while his 90 year old mother watches our son. It's been 7 days at my house and 7 days at dad's house but it is really starting to wear on our son. No rules to speak of at dad's, no enforcement of rules I have made for our son. Very long story, basically dad doesn't care about his own son's best interest. However he will buy him whatever he wants....Bottom line, this parenting plan is not working and needs to be revisited.How hard is it to change a parenting plan once it's been in place for several years?
You had married a very selfish man but I think you already knew this. He does what he wants, when he wants. And your son doesn't fit into his plans. When your son goes to his Dad's, send along activity books, reading books, games, gameboy, and anything you can think of to occupy his time. I feel sad for him because this is what he's going to remember when he grows up. You may need to go back to court. Keep a record of where he goes and how much time your son is forced to spend with the elderly grandma.How hard is it to change a parenting plan once it's been in place for several years?
It will be hard to do, but worthwhile for your son. He needs consistency.
It might not be that hard to do. Talk to your ex first. See if you can work something out without going to court and hiring lawyers. Don't be confrontational or tell him he's a bad Dad. Just say ';I think our son might benefit from having a little more stability. Could we try a new arrangement for the next three months to see how it works out'; Suggest one day or night a week with Dad and maybe every other weekend. Or even one day every weekend.
You can't force your husband to follow the way YOU parent. Obviously he has no parenting plan but you can't make him have one, he is your EX and is entitled to parent the way he feels like parenting just as you parent your way. You don't get to dictate what goes on in your ex's home just like he doesn't get to dictate what goes on in YOUR home. Yes your son is going to wind up the loser in this deal but you have no say in what your ex does.
I'm assuming this is a court ordered parenting plan? It might be easier to change than you think, but that would depend on the types of changes you're looking for.
If it is not working then it should be able to be revised. At least Grandma is getting some quality time. I bet a 10 year old is a handful for her..