From the parenting section, do you choose contacts who?

are similar to you in their parenting, or agree with you on important parenting issues, or who are similar to your real life friends?





or do you choose them notwithstanding your differences because you find them interesting or because they make you laugh?





if your contacts were in a room with your real-life friends, would they hate one another or get along?From the parenting section, do you choose contacts who?
More or less I choose them based on our similarities on the core values of parenting. But I also find that a lot of them (including you!) are overall interesting and kind people, which are attractive qualities.








Then there comes the sense of humor :) Yes those things make a difference too! I'm not sure though if my friends would hate my contacts or not. I think they would like them, but that's for them to decide. I know I like them :)From the parenting section, do you choose contacts who?
I think mine would be a pretty good mix of personalities, and I definitely have different beliefs on some parenting topics than my contacts. I would say that there is actually less diversity amongst my ';real life'; friends than I have on here, and it's part of why I enjoy this- I like hearing different opinions. I choose contacts based on people who I find interesting and seem genuine. I like a good sense of humor, but I really enjoy people who ask thoughtful questions and give well informed thoughtful answers.
None of my real life friends are mothers, so if my contacts who are moms, and my real life friends were in the same room, I doubt they would have anything in common, but my friends, and my contacts are very nice people, so I doubt there would be any confrontation or tension between them.





I don't have a specif formula for contacts. If they have a good rep, and have a sense of humor .... it works, but, who I connect to my network are mostly interesting enough people, or people who are funny %26amp; lax.
I added you to my contacts because I find your questions and answers very insightful and interesting. I don't have anyone else on my contacts (no offense to anyone) from the parenting section. I really mean no offense to anyone, I think a lot of people on here are very insightful in their parenting skills and answers. I will add someone even if their views are different than mine if they can keep my interest. :)





Edit: I must also add that I thoroughly enjoy Mozz. She cracks me up. I just now added her to my contacts, I just hadn't gotten around to it yet. :P
I have a vast variation of friends in Real Life as well as on yahoo...some I agree with as far as parenting style, some I don't, In real life and on yahoo. I'm sure many feel the same about me and I'm fine with that...the people I consider my GOOD friends in real life for the most part we agree on most topics others I keep as acquaintances.





I don't really pick my Contacts for the most part they pick me. I feel that if they have the good sense to PICK ME...they must be ok! (tongue in cheek here Des!)


I believe my close contact/friends WOULD get along well with my Real Life friends.
Based on respect (whether they parent like me or not) and humor doesn't hurt:) There are a few of them that even resemble (personality wise) a few of my real life friends. I think they'd probably get along but as I said the other day, my being ';multifaceted'; lends to me to have some extreme differences in friends.
It started as choosing contacts that had children that were the same age as my son, so we could exchange questions/answers. Then I picked the people that had a great sense of humor and seemed open-minded. I also choose people that consistently give good answers/advice. I have friends from yahoo that I talk to and consider them my real-life friends now.......all combined, I think everyone would get along great. My friends all share one thing in common: being able to laugh at themselves and make me laugh!!
People whose opinions I respect, share similar parenting experiences, or make me pee my pants laughing.





Went toe-to-toe with one of my favorites today in a peanut butter question. But she's still one of my favorite contacts. We can disagree and still appreciate each other's two cents. It's why we're contacts. No room on my list for people who can't hear any one else's voice but their own.





Why thanks Erin, that's nice to read. And Des, you bring it girl. I got iron toes.
i choose my contacts very carefully. i don't have much in fact. :)





originally, i chose contacts according to their backgrounds --if they have kids with disabilities, experience with IEPs and such. then i went for general good and clever Q and As. and finally, i went for those who make me laugh and feel great about hanging out here.





honestly, you guys (my contacts) rock more than my real life friends. lol!
the girls in my contacts are similar but different. we may not use the same ways to raise our kids but our end goal is the same. that to me is what is important.





all of my contacts make me laugh. its a requirement to my contact. that and you must find me hilarious.





i think everyone would love my contacts. i only choose the best. :-)
I have a mixed bag of contacts. Some things we agree on and others we don't. Take you and I for example we don't always agree but you are still a contact and I respect what you say just like you respect what I say, for the most part. It makes for an interesting time on Y!A.
Some are similar, some are different but interesting, and some are funny and make me smile.





If they were all in the same room together, it would be one diverse crowd (but hopefully they would all get along considering most are open-minded, considerate people).
I choose them by their sense of reality, and humor. If they're funny and down to earth, they're my kind of people.





If I had a party with my contacts, they'd be so loaded, they'd all be crying and hugging eachother regardless of their views
Okay.. let's pretend I have real life friends...


Then yea, they would all get along.





Uhm.. actually though, most of my contacts do get along. some are similar but I have only found 1 or people that are a lot like me in parenting or otherwise, anyhow.
To be honest I choose contacts who pick me first. I have yet to take the time to search and find people who are similar to me, etc. So far I do like them all.
I choose the ones who choose me. Doesn't matter what their beliefs are.
I chose them by the answers they give and the meaning they put into their answers.
You have to give respect, to earn it.
I chose you, so it must be because of choice number 2.;-)





And I hope they'd all get along.














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